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<blockquote data-quote="Marcie Mac" data-source="post: 425124" data-attributes="member: 47"><p>Jen, if she is looking for her birthday present, instead of comming back with the comment "well, you chose to have another mother and now its her place to buy you a present" just wish her happy birthday and if she asks about her present, tell her you used the money for her present on the doctor and medication, and leave it at that.</p><p> </p><p>I know you are distraught over her choices and very hurt, and rightfully so. But snarky comments only serve to work on widening whats now a little chip in your relationship - you don't want to ensure it becomes a hugh honking gap over time. From what I have read, her leaving had nothing to do with her wanting "another mother"</p><p> </p><p> In hindsight <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> I wish therapy was common back in my day-things might have been different with my mother and I - both of us may have learned the art of "effective communication". It started with a few barbs aimed to hurt and control on her end that had really nothing to do with whatever we were in current disagreement about because she was never able to honestly address her feelings about me leaving at 17 in the first place, so it festered with hurtful remarks, and on my end, my attitude was #$#$ it, am not dealing with your negativity on my choices, my life, and ended up having limited contact.</p><p> </p><p>Not comparing you to my mother, she is one of a kind LOL. If your po'd and feel used and don't want to buy her a present, just say it and don't use someother comment to convey it, because over time, you don't want that to become the norm in communicating (in my humble opinion)</p><p> </p><p>Marcie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marcie Mac, post: 425124, member: 47"] Jen, if she is looking for her birthday present, instead of comming back with the comment "well, you chose to have another mother and now its her place to buy you a present" just wish her happy birthday and if she asks about her present, tell her you used the money for her present on the doctor and medication, and leave it at that. I know you are distraught over her choices and very hurt, and rightfully so. But snarky comments only serve to work on widening whats now a little chip in your relationship - you don't want to ensure it becomes a hugh honking gap over time. From what I have read, her leaving had nothing to do with her wanting "another mother" In hindsight :) I wish therapy was common back in my day-things might have been different with my mother and I - both of us may have learned the art of "effective communication". It started with a few barbs aimed to hurt and control on her end that had really nothing to do with whatever we were in current disagreement about because she was never able to honestly address her feelings about me leaving at 17 in the first place, so it festered with hurtful remarks, and on my end, my attitude was #$#$ it, am not dealing with your negativity on my choices, my life, and ended up having limited contact. Not comparing you to my mother, she is one of a kind LOL. If your po'd and feel used and don't want to buy her a present, just say it and don't use someother comment to convey it, because over time, you don't want that to become the norm in communicating (in my humble opinion) Marcie [/QUOTE]
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