hi so i had therapy today....... we talked about easy child alot. winds up she called me from a friends phone while i was in therapy. today she was supposed to come by to get the medication for her problem, and well i told her 5 o'clock. she never showed, we waited till 5:20 yet than we had to go i had therapy appointment. she yelled at me on phone, cursed at me, hung up on me that i dare leave the house and not leave the medication for her. so long story short therapist made me investigate why i'm continuing to enable her, make same decisions as before and overall am not achieving my goal which is to get her better, and maybe get her home in time. she said yup she should of gone to health dept for her issue, she has to learn the consequences of her actions and you saved the day again and guess what she abused you for it. she said her birthday is sunday as well as mother's day. she said send her an email stating you'd like her to spend day with you and corrine yet there are rules to it, they'll be no cursing or yelling at me or difficult child, etc. also she said do not buy her a gift. the gift is the day. this wil be hard for me. she said she's eating her cake and whatever that saying is. best of both worlds. i'm still saving her as she chose to move in with this other mom. taht means no cell phone, no birthday gifts, no nothing. so i'm asking for some power because this will be hard for me to do on sunday. i have a double hitter mother's day and her birthday. it wont' be easy. she def. will come i think i could be wrong because she thinks they'll be a gift. i said and when she blows up? she said well that's when you say listen you have chosen to live with another mother, it isn't my place to buy you a birthday gift it's her place. this was your choice not ours. oh boy let's see how i do with that one. so she said you have moments of total clarity yet when your up till 4 a.m. flipping out with anxiety can't sleep keeping your husband up who you have rubbing your back at 4 a.m.to help get you down you need to disengage now. words to live by, disengage. you've all been saying it. i know, well here goes. she sadi whatever easy child has against you it doesnt' justify her abusing you as she is at all ever. i said yup i agree. her line to me taht stuck was why do you keep making the same decisions that are leaving you in the same spot?