Julie, Sharon has given you good advice. Just wanted to explain a bit more about neuropychological testing. A neuropsychologist is a clinical psychologist who has extra training in how the brain functions. He does extensive testing (anywhere from 6 to 10 hours) that explores the cognitive, attentional and psychological functioning of the child and forms the basis for a working diagnosis. This testing helps other doctors (like child psychiatrists) understand the child's strengths and weaknesses and put appopriate treatment plans together. This testing can also serve as evidence for putting an IEP in place at the school. Neuropsychologists can be found at children's or university teaching hospitals. Your pediatrician or your daughter's neurologist may also have some referrals for you.
By the way, alcoholism can be a red flag for mood disorders in the family tree. Many alcoholics self-medicate their mental health issues.
In terms of the school, I'm glad you're working with an advocacy group. A public school cannot just get rid of your child. He is guaranteed a free and appropriate public education, and the school violated his rights. You might want to repost the education part of your story on the Special Education 101 forum here. The moderators Martie and Sheila really know their stuff and can give you wonderful advice.
What kind of doctor are you seeing on July 17?
Good luck. We're here for you as you navigate this challenging journey.
