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<blockquote data-quote="keista" data-source="post: 539267" data-attributes="member: 11965"><p>I'm sorry, I did not mean to cause you more heart ache. You explained just fine, and I do get it.</p><p></p><p> </p><p>This is the reality, she is a difficult child, and Honestly, I can't begin to imagine the giant tangle that is a child's emotions in such a situation. What I'm saying is that I get it and I understand and while I do see your side as well, I wouldn't hold this against her to much.</p><p></p><p>My story is better suited for Mother's Day but still serves as a good illustration. My mother died when I was 5. That's 38 years ago. I still have no idea how I'm going to act/react on Mother's Day. Sometimes I'm just fine. Other times, I make plans thinking I'll be fine and then I'm not, and everything falls apart because I cannot wrap up the plans appropriately. Some years I've even hated/resented my own children because they have me and I had no one. (how twisted is that?). In my younger days, I was quite gfgish on Mother's Day. No one ever seemed to understand the pain I was in, and certainly I wasn't explaining it.</p><p></p><p>I get how hurtful this is to you and H, but I also get where difficult child is coming from, and I think you should cut her some slack. After all, she is the child in this scenario. Ah but she's an adult now. Yeah, I get that. And should you have a discussion with her? Sure, but at a later date, and in a kind and compassionate matter because although she's had many years of healing and adjusting, she's still a difficult child, and on emotionally sensitive days, it's <strong>REALLY</strong> hard to keep those emotions and behavior in check.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="keista, post: 539267, member: 11965"] I'm sorry, I did not mean to cause you more heart ache. You explained just fine, and I do get it. This is the reality, she is a difficult child, and Honestly, I can't begin to imagine the giant tangle that is a child's emotions in such a situation. What I'm saying is that I get it and I understand and while I do see your side as well, I wouldn't hold this against her to much. My story is better suited for Mother's Day but still serves as a good illustration. My mother died when I was 5. That's 38 years ago. I still have no idea how I'm going to act/react on Mother's Day. Sometimes I'm just fine. Other times, I make plans thinking I'll be fine and then I'm not, and everything falls apart because I cannot wrap up the plans appropriately. Some years I've even hated/resented my own children because they have me and I had no one. (how twisted is that?). In my younger days, I was quite gfgish on Mother's Day. No one ever seemed to understand the pain I was in, and certainly I wasn't explaining it. I get how hurtful this is to you and H, but I also get where difficult child is coming from, and I think you should cut her some slack. After all, she is the child in this scenario. Ah but she's an adult now. Yeah, I get that. And should you have a discussion with her? Sure, but at a later date, and in a kind and compassionate matter because although she's had many years of healing and adjusting, she's still a difficult child, and on emotionally sensitive days, it's [B]REALLY[/B] hard to keep those emotions and behavior in check. [/QUOTE]
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