I have noticed myself trying to be very careful about "not" angering my child lately. It is almost the end of the year of school and I am just trying to get him through the end of the year and I am so exhausted with his tantrums. I feel that I may be putting things in basket B (Explosive child) that maybe shouldn't be. Such as, today he is standing near the edge of the driveway waiting for the bus and doing it while the bus is pulling around the corner to come in front of my driveway. Now, with my other son, I would pull him back immediately (he is my runner) and no tantrum would ensue but with difficult child I know he would not actually step out in front of the bus so I keep my cool and tell him calmly not to step out there because he'll become a smashed potato. I have found that light humor works for him. If I react, he reacts. Now If I reacted and pulled him back myself without giving him the chance to obey himself, etc. he would have thrown down, screamed and kicked me and the poor bus driver and probably had a bad start to his day in school. Which may have spiraled into an office visit before the end of the day. By the way, he is 5 and in special needs pre-k. I am wondering if I am doing more harm than good by walking on eggshells in the morning trying to keep our mornings as pleasant as possible so as not to disrupt the rest of his day? Is this how the baskets in Explosive Child work? This mornings behavior at the bus stop is a little over the top for him. He has never done this before so this afternoon I will definitely discuss with him seriously the danger aspects of what he did this morning which will inevitably start his screams. He thinks if he goes into all out scream mode we will let it pass but we just wait for him to stop screaming and talk to him then. His video games will come after the "talk". That usually gets him to listen real quick It;sweird how sometimes he can do fine then other times--- kaboom---!