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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 370278" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Sweetie, your husband is showing some serious signs of problems, including a complete lack of respect for everyone and everything. If he cannot grasp that on a military base you do what the man in charge tells you to do, he is way beyond where most people get some help.</p><p> </p><p>Is alcohol a factor, or is he using some kind of drug when he is not with you? The way he was driving is very scary. He is going to kill someone with that kind of driving. I really hope he gets pulled over and arrested before that happens, esp if he drives like that with the children in the car. Please insist that he not drive any more - no matter how much he whines and pouts and has a fit. If you are in a truck, why not make him ride in the bed if he is going to act that way? </p><p> </p><p>Is this behavior a sudden and dramatic change, or something that has been slowly building up over time? If it is a sudden and dramatic change there may have been something like a TIA (mini stroke kind of thing - transient ischemic attack). If it has been building could his hearing and/or eyesight gotten much much worse with-o him realizing how bad it is? I know when my Gpa first needed a hearing aid he was struggling very hard to hear so he often only caught the first part of a sentence or direction, like husband is doing with directions. His mood was awful - he knew something was wrong but it happened so gradually that he couldn't really pinpoint what was wrong. Similar behavior happened when his cataracts first started causing problems. My gpa was NOT a stupid man, but he simply did not realize how bad his hearing/eyesight was until he got a hearing aid/cataracts out. He only went to the docs because my mom pulled out the nuclear warheads to attack the problem. He kept refusing to go (with each problem, they did not happen at the same time) until Mom told him we would not come to visit and he could not come visit us until he saw the doctor and did what the doctor told him to do. </p><p> </p><p>I am wondering if something like that could cause the changes you are seeing in husband.</p><p> </p><p>Even if there is a reason behind his driving and response to directions, you still need to address the passive-aggressive nonsense. Marg has a good strategy if you can stick to it and ignore him when he gets upset with how you are treating him. This kind of behavior is not healthy for any of you, esp the kids. He is teaching Wee how to treat a spouse and children, and how to treat other adults. easy child is being taught to expect that kind of behavior from a spouse, and that a spouse is supposed to put up with it. Both of the kids are learning that it is okay to treat you with disrespect and to disregard even the most basic rules, such as staying on the right side of the double yellow lines. </p><p> </p><p>I am sorry that the trip is so unpleasant and scary. (((((hugs)))))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 370278, member: 1233"] Sweetie, your husband is showing some serious signs of problems, including a complete lack of respect for everyone and everything. If he cannot grasp that on a military base you do what the man in charge tells you to do, he is way beyond where most people get some help. Is alcohol a factor, or is he using some kind of drug when he is not with you? The way he was driving is very scary. He is going to kill someone with that kind of driving. I really hope he gets pulled over and arrested before that happens, esp if he drives like that with the children in the car. Please insist that he not drive any more - no matter how much he whines and pouts and has a fit. If you are in a truck, why not make him ride in the bed if he is going to act that way? Is this behavior a sudden and dramatic change, or something that has been slowly building up over time? If it is a sudden and dramatic change there may have been something like a TIA (mini stroke kind of thing - transient ischemic attack). If it has been building could his hearing and/or eyesight gotten much much worse with-o him realizing how bad it is? I know when my Gpa first needed a hearing aid he was struggling very hard to hear so he often only caught the first part of a sentence or direction, like husband is doing with directions. His mood was awful - he knew something was wrong but it happened so gradually that he couldn't really pinpoint what was wrong. Similar behavior happened when his cataracts first started causing problems. My gpa was NOT a stupid man, but he simply did not realize how bad his hearing/eyesight was until he got a hearing aid/cataracts out. He only went to the docs because my mom pulled out the nuclear warheads to attack the problem. He kept refusing to go (with each problem, they did not happen at the same time) until Mom told him we would not come to visit and he could not come visit us until he saw the doctor and did what the doctor told him to do. I am wondering if something like that could cause the changes you are seeing in husband. Even if there is a reason behind his driving and response to directions, you still need to address the passive-aggressive nonsense. Marg has a good strategy if you can stick to it and ignore him when he gets upset with how you are treating him. This kind of behavior is not healthy for any of you, esp the kids. He is teaching Wee how to treat a spouse and children, and how to treat other adults. easy child is being taught to expect that kind of behavior from a spouse, and that a spouse is supposed to put up with it. Both of the kids are learning that it is okay to treat you with disrespect and to disregard even the most basic rules, such as staying on the right side of the double yellow lines. I am sorry that the trip is so unpleasant and scary. (((((hugs))))) [/QUOTE]
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