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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 370292" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Fran may have pinpointed the problem. Dyslexia often runs in families, as do autistic traits. At least from what I have seen they do. Maybe Wee's issues are a more severe version of his father's problems. </p><p> </p><p>Many many people are able to hide dyslexia and/or illiteracy. One of my college friends used to laugh because her dad would take the labels from boxes or the front of the box to the grocery with him (he did all the family grocery shopping). He kept them in binders. When he needed to buy the item he matched the boxes. She was shocked when I said it is a good way for someone who cannot read to buy the right things. She convinced her dad to admit that he couldn't read and to get some help. She struggled with mild dyslexia but never considered that her dad might have it. She always thought he was too lazy to bother reading the labels. He ran a very successful dry cleaners for years after retiring from working for a railroad company. He had bookkeepers and accountants and others to do the paperwork (until an accountant embezzled and he lost the business). </p><p> </p><p>It is very possible to hide illiteracy, esp when you are younger and have more energy. Seeing a young relative achieve something you could never do because you cannot read would make a lot of people very grumpy and unpleasant. Especially if it is something you wanted to do when you were young and couldn't because you didn't know how to get help. It sounds like his parents would NOT have allowed him to even be tested for learning disabilities, much less treated for them. This graduation might be bringing back a TON of old resentments.</p><p> </p><p>I have a cousin (B) who made it to almost the end of third grade with A's and B's even though he could not read. He memorized things and used being the class clown to distract anyone who wanted him to read something out loud. </p><p> </p><p>You might contact an adult literacy group to ask for signs that might help you figure this out before you speak to husband about it. The National Coalition for Literacy (<a href="http://www.national-coalition-literacy.org/" target="_blank">http://www.national-coalition-literacy.org/</a>) may be a place to start.</p><p> </p><p>Of course not being able to read is not justification for his behavior, so you need to address that somehow also.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 370292, member: 1233"] Fran may have pinpointed the problem. Dyslexia often runs in families, as do autistic traits. At least from what I have seen they do. Maybe Wee's issues are a more severe version of his father's problems. Many many people are able to hide dyslexia and/or illiteracy. One of my college friends used to laugh because her dad would take the labels from boxes or the front of the box to the grocery with him (he did all the family grocery shopping). He kept them in binders. When he needed to buy the item he matched the boxes. She was shocked when I said it is a good way for someone who cannot read to buy the right things. She convinced her dad to admit that he couldn't read and to get some help. She struggled with mild dyslexia but never considered that her dad might have it. She always thought he was too lazy to bother reading the labels. He ran a very successful dry cleaners for years after retiring from working for a railroad company. He had bookkeepers and accountants and others to do the paperwork (until an accountant embezzled and he lost the business). It is very possible to hide illiteracy, esp when you are younger and have more energy. Seeing a young relative achieve something you could never do because you cannot read would make a lot of people very grumpy and unpleasant. Especially if it is something you wanted to do when you were young and couldn't because you didn't know how to get help. It sounds like his parents would NOT have allowed him to even be tested for learning disabilities, much less treated for them. This graduation might be bringing back a TON of old resentments. I have a cousin (B) who made it to almost the end of third grade with A's and B's even though he could not read. He memorized things and used being the class clown to distract anyone who wanted him to read something out loud. You might contact an adult literacy group to ask for signs that might help you figure this out before you speak to husband about it. The National Coalition for Literacy ([URL]http://www.national-coalition-literacy.org/[/URL]) may be a place to start. Of course not being able to read is not justification for his behavior, so you need to address that somehow also. [/QUOTE]
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