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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 122674" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>Jennifer,</p><p> </p><p>I'm really sorry you're getting mixed messages from the school. in my humble opinion, school staff have a much better opportunity to evaluate her (from an educational standpoint) than any inpatient stay ever would. They can't diagnose, but they see the real difficult child and should have a much better grasp on her day to day difficulties as well as a good handle on her strengths.</p><p> </p><p>As Meowbunny said, honeymooning is an extremely common occurrence in the inpatient setting - let's face it, on a child psychiatric unit with structured "fun" (or at least different than at home) activities almost 24/7? Most kids are not going to demonstrate the behaviors that got them there in the first place. It's an artificial environment. </p><p> </p><p>Personally, I would go with the outpatient testing but I would prepare for the possibility that you're not going to get a hard and fast "answer". There's some science involved here but there's also a lot of art. </p><p> </p><p>thank you's had 24 (I think, I kinda lost track at 21) admissions in the past 10 years. The first dozen or so were honeymoons. I remember asking his psychiatrist at one point if they could *please* just stress him a big (maybe ask him to brush his teeth?) so they could see what we were really dealing with. He chuckled and said he knew what we were dealing with - the point of hospitalization in thank you's case was pure stabilization. </p><p> </p><p>He's also had a boatload of evaluations over the years. I used to list all his "diagnoses" but it became alphabet soup - Intermittent Explosive Disorder (IED), ODD, PTSD, ADHD, depression, bipolar, schizophrenia, yadda yadda yadda. After years of this I realized a couple of things. The "diagnosis" depended on the doctor. The "diagnosis" didn't fix anything. At the end of the day, we are still left with thank you and his behaviors in all their glory. In looking at your signature, I think you've been there done that.</p><p> </p><p>I truly don't mean to be discouraging but I am not terribly sure anyone is going to be able to definitively "hit the nail on the head". In my experience, you have to look thoroughly at the evaluation done, how it was done and what kind of shape difficult child was in when it was done, the results, and the recommendations and weigh them. It's very possible that parts of the evaluation will be helpful and parts won't be worth the paper it's written on. </p><p> </p><p>It'd be much easier if there were a blood test or some other really firm diagnostic tool that would give us the answer as to how to help our kids learn and grow. It just doesn't exist. It's a whole lot of trial and error. </p><p> </p><p>Do hang in there. I look at thank you (and myself) over the years and I see an evolution. We haven't found *the* answer yet but... things are better.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 122674, member: 8"] Jennifer, I'm really sorry you're getting mixed messages from the school. in my humble opinion, school staff have a much better opportunity to evaluate her (from an educational standpoint) than any inpatient stay ever would. They can't diagnose, but they see the real difficult child and should have a much better grasp on her day to day difficulties as well as a good handle on her strengths. As Meowbunny said, honeymooning is an extremely common occurrence in the inpatient setting - let's face it, on a child psychiatric unit with structured "fun" (or at least different than at home) activities almost 24/7? Most kids are not going to demonstrate the behaviors that got them there in the first place. It's an artificial environment. Personally, I would go with the outpatient testing but I would prepare for the possibility that you're not going to get a hard and fast "answer". There's some science involved here but there's also a lot of art. thank you's had 24 (I think, I kinda lost track at 21) admissions in the past 10 years. The first dozen or so were honeymoons. I remember asking his psychiatrist at one point if they could *please* just stress him a big (maybe ask him to brush his teeth?) so they could see what we were really dealing with. He chuckled and said he knew what we were dealing with - the point of hospitalization in thank you's case was pure stabilization. He's also had a boatload of evaluations over the years. I used to list all his "diagnoses" but it became alphabet soup - Intermittent Explosive Disorder (IED), ODD, PTSD, ADHD, depression, bipolar, schizophrenia, yadda yadda yadda. After years of this I realized a couple of things. The "diagnosis" depended on the doctor. The "diagnosis" didn't fix anything. At the end of the day, we are still left with thank you and his behaviors in all their glory. In looking at your signature, I think you've been there done that. I truly don't mean to be discouraging but I am not terribly sure anyone is going to be able to definitively "hit the nail on the head". In my experience, you have to look thoroughly at the evaluation done, how it was done and what kind of shape difficult child was in when it was done, the results, and the recommendations and weigh them. It's very possible that parts of the evaluation will be helpful and parts won't be worth the paper it's written on. It'd be much easier if there were a blood test or some other really firm diagnostic tool that would give us the answer as to how to help our kids learn and grow. It just doesn't exist. It's a whole lot of trial and error. Do hang in there. I look at thank you (and myself) over the years and I see an evolution. We haven't found *the* answer yet but... things are better. [/QUOTE]
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