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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 410887" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am sorry that this issue even came up. I have always wondered why locker rooms are so unsupervised. I wondered it as a kid and I wonder it now. SO much bullying and awful behavior happens in the locker room by students and even by adults sometimes. I HATED going into the locker room in jr high. I only ever had 1 class for 1 semester that made me go into a locker room and it was a nasty experience. Not just the teasing and comparing one kid's body to anothers, there was outright abuse going on. Of course our male gym teacher LOVED to wander in unannounced and got fired for it two weeks after my semester of gym ended. He made really awful remarks to some of us if our bodies were not as "developed" as other girls' were. THen there were his comments if you WERE developed that were awful, etc...</p><p> </p><p>I have heard a ton of stories about guys peeing all over lockers and other people's stuff. gross gross gross YUCK! I have even been appalled years later to hear former high school jocks describe how "fun" it was to pee through the holes in a locker, or in a guy's water bottle or on a guy in the shower while he rinsed his hair with his eyes shut, even in other kids' lunches. Part of it is marking their territory in the stupidest way possible - seems to be almost a rite of passage for some athletic groups - but msot of it is just plain lack of sense and abuse.</p><p> </p><p>Calling school and talking to the VP was exactly the right thing to do. It may not seem like a big deal to the boys, or like it is gross but just something that guys do, but a lot of nasty things can result from this. Not the least is escalation in this kind of thing if they think they can get away with it!! Mold growing on the shirts if left for a couple of days are just one example. </p><p> </p><p>Just be sure that the VP keeps difficult child's name out of it!!! Chances are if difficult child had kept the shirt or called you right away he would have gotten labelled as the kid who snitched. It can make you a target.</p><p> </p><p>Kudos to difficult child for telling you what happened and to you for telling the VP.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 410887, member: 1233"] I am sorry that this issue even came up. I have always wondered why locker rooms are so unsupervised. I wondered it as a kid and I wonder it now. SO much bullying and awful behavior happens in the locker room by students and even by adults sometimes. I HATED going into the locker room in jr high. I only ever had 1 class for 1 semester that made me go into a locker room and it was a nasty experience. Not just the teasing and comparing one kid's body to anothers, there was outright abuse going on. Of course our male gym teacher LOVED to wander in unannounced and got fired for it two weeks after my semester of gym ended. He made really awful remarks to some of us if our bodies were not as "developed" as other girls' were. THen there were his comments if you WERE developed that were awful, etc... I have heard a ton of stories about guys peeing all over lockers and other people's stuff. gross gross gross YUCK! I have even been appalled years later to hear former high school jocks describe how "fun" it was to pee through the holes in a locker, or in a guy's water bottle or on a guy in the shower while he rinsed his hair with his eyes shut, even in other kids' lunches. Part of it is marking their territory in the stupidest way possible - seems to be almost a rite of passage for some athletic groups - but msot of it is just plain lack of sense and abuse. Calling school and talking to the VP was exactly the right thing to do. It may not seem like a big deal to the boys, or like it is gross but just something that guys do, but a lot of nasty things can result from this. Not the least is escalation in this kind of thing if they think they can get away with it!! Mold growing on the shirts if left for a couple of days are just one example. Just be sure that the VP keeps difficult child's name out of it!!! Chances are if difficult child had kept the shirt or called you right away he would have gotten labelled as the kid who snitched. It can make you a target. Kudos to difficult child for telling you what happened and to you for telling the VP. [/QUOTE]
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