My daughter who used to take drugs is starting to scare me. She has always been high strung, but lately she is overwhelmed with her job and her boyfriend and her father says stupid things to her that make her very nervous. She lives with her father AND with her boyfriend (who lives with his mother still--as goofy as this sounds boyfriend's mother and daughter really get along well--we all do). My daughter confides in me more than anyone. Since quitting drugs, she has felt very lonely. She has no real friends, except for her boyfriend. The fact is that without drugs, she is on the shy side. She has lately been talking about how boring it is to go to parties because everyone is wasted, so she stays home. Of late, when I talk to her, she cries a lot about her pressure she's under and mentions suicide. SHe'll say "I feel like killing myself sometimes, but I would never do it, but I feel like it sometimes...or just like running away. It's so hard to deal with all this." She won't go to a therapist so far although, trust me, I've been pushing the idea and she does at least give me an ear. I'm so afraid that this sensitive, sweet daughter, who is so big-hearted, is going to kill herself one day. Today I've been thinking about it more than usual and it scares me. I have offered to let her live with me and just rest for a while. She has worked hard since age fifteen and has never had a break. Even when she took drugs, she worked, did her chores around the house, and was old for her age. She was sexually assaulted at a friend's house at age eight. I think this has a huge deal to do with her problems. The man was a visitor at her freinds house and assaulted her while her friend was in the kitchen helping her mother cook. She didn't tell me until she was fourteen because "I felt like I deserved it" "I felt so dirty" "I didn't know what to say" "It was too awful to talk about." This, after we'd told her "you can tell us if somebody touches you the wrong way." She went for some counseling, but mostly refused, calling it "a waste of time." I'm quite sure this contributed to her drug use. Inside her, is a good person who wants to be loved and who would give anyone the shirt off her back. I truly don't know how she quit drugs with all this on her head, but she did. Of course they doesn't mean she won't start doing them again. Anyone have suggestions on how to again approach her to think about getting help? I know she is too old for me to force the issue and if I talk about it too much, I think she'll shut down on me because that's how she is.