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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 191451" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Well, this guy is an intern at a teaching hospital. We've already tried 3 others in the past year- not to mention the ones tried before that. They ALL say they have experience with mood disorders, but once they find out that difficult child has been in trouble legally, they have the "I'm dealing with an ODD kid" attitude. What makes it so bad, is that I'm looking for someone who can help me stay level-headed when difficult child isn't stable and give me reminders not to criticize or blame him for it but to stick to constructive methods of de-escalation. They cannot do that if they don't understand that it isn't in the kid's control- it isn't in his control that he has this problem, but he can learn strategies himself. Example- he said something about telling kids to act their age and quit acting like a baby so he could help them. Well, when I was seeing a therapist for myself, that would have just put me on the defensive. If difficult child is manic and climbing around on the roof or trying to jump out of a car, this isn't going to help calm him down- this could drive him over the edge. He said several things that I knew wouldn't work well with us. But then, they all have. Really, I think they mis-represent themselves and we, as parents, tend to take it for face value when they say they experience dealing with certain issues. But so far, I see NO evidence that they really have experience dealing with mood cycling.</p><p></p><p>The best- albeit probably impossible- would be to find a therapist with the educational knowledge who had first hand experience (having a child with a mood disorder or working in a psychiatric hospital, etc) with kids who had this kind of issue. One of my triggers is for peopl to try to bash me out of having anxiety or feeling stress- I cannot ever accept that for difficult child- it is a STUPID approach.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 191451, member: 3699"] Well, this guy is an intern at a teaching hospital. We've already tried 3 others in the past year- not to mention the ones tried before that. They ALL say they have experience with mood disorders, but once they find out that difficult child has been in trouble legally, they have the "I'm dealing with an ODD kid" attitude. What makes it so bad, is that I'm looking for someone who can help me stay level-headed when difficult child isn't stable and give me reminders not to criticize or blame him for it but to stick to constructive methods of de-escalation. They cannot do that if they don't understand that it isn't in the kid's control- it isn't in his control that he has this problem, but he can learn strategies himself. Example- he said something about telling kids to act their age and quit acting like a baby so he could help them. Well, when I was seeing a therapist for myself, that would have just put me on the defensive. If difficult child is manic and climbing around on the roof or trying to jump out of a car, this isn't going to help calm him down- this could drive him over the edge. He said several things that I knew wouldn't work well with us. But then, they all have. Really, I think they mis-represent themselves and we, as parents, tend to take it for face value when they say they experience dealing with certain issues. But so far, I see NO evidence that they really have experience dealing with mood cycling. The best- albeit probably impossible- would be to find a therapist with the educational knowledge who had first hand experience (having a child with a mood disorder or working in a psychiatric hospital, etc) with kids who had this kind of issue. One of my triggers is for peopl to try to bash me out of having anxiety or feeling stress- I cannot ever accept that for difficult child- it is a STUPID approach. [/QUOTE]
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