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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 191892" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>We've had nightmare situations with tdocs before- ok, some were nightmares, some were just a complete waste of time. He has seen the longest for about 5 mos, I think (that would be twice on 2 different occasions). I understand what you are saying, but it really isn't the situation here. There has been no therapist with the same outlook to begin with. I tried, sincerely tried, to work with the behavior modification approach and my son kept getting progressively worse. I have sat and listened through 3 tdocs go on and on about how they can help for 3-4 mos, on different occasions, only to hear them end up saying that they don't know what to do. This isn't a situation where they are saying to me "I strongly recommend XXX" and I'm sitting there saying "no, it has to be this way". It's a situation, usually, where they are syaing "so, this is your therapuetic goal" and I'm saying "no, that isn't my therapuetic goal". Yes, we're looking for more than an individual therapist for difficult child, based on recommendations from 2 psychiatrists. I didn't write the treatment plan- I'm trying to find a provider for the treatment plan that a psychiatrist wrote. The therapuetic goals are spelled out in the treatment plan. </p><p></p><p>I just don't think all tdocs are competent and I don't agree that any therapist can help any person with any method, if the person can be comfortable with them. I have seen it do more damage than good at times. I get the point that maybe that hasn't been your experience but it has been ours.</p><p></p><p>Janet, this might be a "different strokes for different folks" sort of thing with us. I started out like a desparate female looking for any answer available 2 1/2 years ago. When I realized that I was pickier about a painter or plumber for my house and had been interviewing them more than tdocs who I expected to help "shape" my son, I changed that tactic. I think I have every right to set goals for treatment, along with what goals my son might have (that he wants to set for himself- not that I'm setting his goals for him). I don't think the goals should change to meet what a therapist is most familiar with. And, I think if I asked them what their approach and/or plan would be to meet those goals, they should tell me. If they can't tell me, I've learned to cut my losses- If things are getting worse after several mos., I won't continue on with some illusion that someday this will make them better.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 191892, member: 3699"] We've had nightmare situations with tdocs before- ok, some were nightmares, some were just a complete waste of time. He has seen the longest for about 5 mos, I think (that would be twice on 2 different occasions). I understand what you are saying, but it really isn't the situation here. There has been no therapist with the same outlook to begin with. I tried, sincerely tried, to work with the behavior modification approach and my son kept getting progressively worse. I have sat and listened through 3 tdocs go on and on about how they can help for 3-4 mos, on different occasions, only to hear them end up saying that they don't know what to do. This isn't a situation where they are saying to me "I strongly recommend XXX" and I'm sitting there saying "no, it has to be this way". It's a situation, usually, where they are syaing "so, this is your therapuetic goal" and I'm saying "no, that isn't my therapuetic goal". Yes, we're looking for more than an individual therapist for difficult child, based on recommendations from 2 psychiatrists. I didn't write the treatment plan- I'm trying to find a provider for the treatment plan that a psychiatrist wrote. The therapuetic goals are spelled out in the treatment plan. I just don't think all tdocs are competent and I don't agree that any therapist can help any person with any method, if the person can be comfortable with them. I have seen it do more damage than good at times. I get the point that maybe that hasn't been your experience but it has been ours. Janet, this might be a "different strokes for different folks" sort of thing with us. I started out like a desparate female looking for any answer available 2 1/2 years ago. When I realized that I was pickier about a painter or plumber for my house and had been interviewing them more than tdocs who I expected to help "shape" my son, I changed that tactic. I think I have every right to set goals for treatment, along with what goals my son might have (that he wants to set for himself- not that I'm setting his goals for him). I don't think the goals should change to meet what a therapist is most familiar with. And, I think if I asked them what their approach and/or plan would be to meet those goals, they should tell me. If they can't tell me, I've learned to cut my losses- If things are getting worse after several mos., I won't continue on with some illusion that someday this will make them better. [/QUOTE]
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