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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 605884" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>This is very hard for you or any parent. Many of us have had or do have the same garbage with our kids that you are going through. </p><p></p><p>As you know, there is NOTHING you can do to stop your son from doing anything. The only help you can give him is moral support if he asks for it. But you still can't make him get back on track. You are only human. Although this is your beloved son, you can't change anything. Think of this: "God grant me the Serenity to accept the things I can not change, the courage to change the things I can, and the Wisdom to know the difference." </p><p></p><p>I highly recommend Nar-Anon so you can get real life hands on help and support. You do need to get on with your life in spite of your son because this could go on indefinitely and you DO have a life, other loved ones and friends, hobbies, maybe a job, fun things you like to do...you have LIFE. And 100% of your life is NOT your son. I hope you choose to try as hard as you can, even though it is difficult, to make your life rich and happy. To dwell only on him will not help him and will hurt you. And I'm sure you need your health and mental stability both for your own self and for others who care for you very much. Your six year old needs you to hold it together. And remember this: Our kids are not our lives. We have separate lives from them or else we lose ourselves...I don't want that for you. I'm sure none of us do.</p><p></p><p>Just as you can't change your son, your husband and your family can not make things better for you. Only YOU can help yourself. Your therapist can't either if you won't allow it and shut down. We all drive our own inner motors and outside forces can not make us better. One person controls every single person on earth and that one person is the person himself/herself. YOU can make things better for you, but you can't make things better for your son. You should in my opinion not allow him to control your life so much and should set boundaries on your contact with him since he is abusive.</p><p></p><p>Hugs and keep us updated.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 605884, member: 1550"] This is very hard for you or any parent. Many of us have had or do have the same garbage with our kids that you are going through. As you know, there is NOTHING you can do to stop your son from doing anything. The only help you can give him is moral support if he asks for it. But you still can't make him get back on track. You are only human. Although this is your beloved son, you can't change anything. Think of this: "God grant me the Serenity to accept the things I can not change, the courage to change the things I can, and the Wisdom to know the difference." I highly recommend Nar-Anon so you can get real life hands on help and support. You do need to get on with your life in spite of your son because this could go on indefinitely and you DO have a life, other loved ones and friends, hobbies, maybe a job, fun things you like to do...you have LIFE. And 100% of your life is NOT your son. I hope you choose to try as hard as you can, even though it is difficult, to make your life rich and happy. To dwell only on him will not help him and will hurt you. And I'm sure you need your health and mental stability both for your own self and for others who care for you very much. Your six year old needs you to hold it together. And remember this: Our kids are not our lives. We have separate lives from them or else we lose ourselves...I don't want that for you. I'm sure none of us do. Just as you can't change your son, your husband and your family can not make things better for you. Only YOU can help yourself. Your therapist can't either if you won't allow it and shut down. We all drive our own inner motors and outside forces can not make us better. One person controls every single person on earth and that one person is the person himself/herself. YOU can make things better for you, but you can't make things better for your son. You should in my opinion not allow him to control your life so much and should set boundaries on your contact with him since he is abusive. Hugs and keep us updated. [/QUOTE]
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