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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 664912" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I think there is horror here. Traumatic horror. Because of course this is not the first time you have witnessed this bad behavior. This is the repetition of trauma.</p><p></p><p>You know I find myself thinking again of the proposed Iran deal. And how I responded so viscerally against Benjamin Netanyahu when he denounced Obama to Congress. So humiliated was I when Netanyahu race-baited to hold onto his power. Shame.</p><p></p><p>Dirty fighting, I thought. And then when Chuck Schumer, the NY Senator I respect, revealed he would vote against the deal. And I read Dershowitz's arguments against it.</p><p></p><p>I learned about negotiating from power. Not weakness. So, now I am seeing Iran in another way, from the point of view of a Jew. Because before I read Dershowitz I had been cowering. I had been seeing the situation from other eyes, not my own. Shamed eyes.</p><p></p><p>The Israelis do not have the luxury to see themselves from others' eyes. There is no cop out possible there. Their survival is at stake. They must face down the aggressor. Or they are destroyed.</p><p></p><p>They cannot be as I am with my sister, watching and listening to her. Stunned.</p><p></p><p>Cedar, more than once you have as if slapped me, in your responses to my posts. As if to say, pay attention to what is at stake here. Your child and your self. There is no room here for squirming and hiding.</p><p></p><p>Now I am seeing Netanyahu and those who think like him as doing what ever it takes to face down evil, to survive. I am not taking a stand here politically. I am speaking about voice, ones own voice for themselves, to survive, and to speak for who we are and want to be.</p><p></p><p>That is what we do here on the board. We take a stand. And in doing so we both reflect and create ourselves.</p><p></p><p>Now, the place where we take a stand is for our children and for ourselves.</p><p></p><p>To decide to stay away from your family is to decide to not resubmit to trauma. To horror. There is no other way to look at it. Because your mother and sister as if force you to submit. There is no alternative to it. That and denouncing what they do.</p><p></p><p>There is a choice here. To try again with D H at your side, with your boundaries in place and prepared. To state your truth. There is nothing wrong with this. And perhaps something to be gained.</p><p></p><p>Now I am looking at the scene with my sister in the hospital from that light. When my sister left the room to do whatever she did with that doctor, I had a choice to submit and allow her to do so unchallenged. Or I had the option of speaking out. Thankfully, I chose the latter.</p><p></p><p>P is talking alone with the doctor outside of the room. I need to be present to hear what she is saying.</p><p></p><p>I could have stayed silent. I did not. And with that, the equilibrium changed.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 664912, member: 18958"] I think there is horror here. Traumatic horror. Because of course this is not the first time you have witnessed this bad behavior. This is the repetition of trauma. You know I find myself thinking again of the proposed Iran deal. And how I responded so viscerally against Benjamin Netanyahu when he denounced Obama to Congress. So humiliated was I when Netanyahu race-baited to hold onto his power. Shame. Dirty fighting, I thought. And then when Chuck Schumer, the NY Senator I respect, revealed he would vote against the deal. And I read Dershowitz's arguments against it. I learned about negotiating from power. Not weakness. So, now I am seeing Iran in another way, from the point of view of a Jew. Because before I read Dershowitz I had been cowering. I had been seeing the situation from other eyes, not my own. Shamed eyes. The Israelis do not have the luxury to see themselves from others' eyes. There is no cop out possible there. Their survival is at stake. They must face down the aggressor. Or they are destroyed. They cannot be as I am with my sister, watching and listening to her. Stunned. Cedar, more than once you have as if slapped me, in your responses to my posts. As if to say, pay attention to what is at stake here. Your child and your self. There is no room here for squirming and hiding. Now I am seeing Netanyahu and those who think like him as doing what ever it takes to face down evil, to survive. I am not taking a stand here politically. I am speaking about voice, ones own voice for themselves, to survive, and to speak for who we are and want to be. That is what we do here on the board. We take a stand. And in doing so we both reflect and create ourselves. Now, the place where we take a stand is for our children and for ourselves. To decide to stay away from your family is to decide to not resubmit to trauma. To horror. There is no other way to look at it. Because your mother and sister as if force you to submit. There is no alternative to it. That and denouncing what they do. There is a choice here. To try again with D H at your side, with your boundaries in place and prepared. To state your truth. There is nothing wrong with this. And perhaps something to be gained. Now I am looking at the scene with my sister in the hospital from that light. When my sister left the room to do whatever she did with that doctor, I had a choice to submit and allow her to do so unchallenged. Or I had the option of speaking out. Thankfully, I chose the latter. P is talking alone with the doctor outside of the room. I need to be present to hear what she is saying. I could have stayed silent. I did not. And with that, the equilibrium changed. [/QUOTE]
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