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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 664978" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>That's awful.</p><p></p><p>I'm so sorry.</p><p></p><p>One of our down South neighbors is Jewish. His partner is Christian. They bring the Menorah and light that days candle for all of us at our house. (Not last year. Last year was just a mess. But for the two ears before that they did. And we heard about his traditions and their meaning and it was truly lovely.)</p><p></p><p>I wish you had had those memories, too.</p><p></p><p>My mother made beautiful Christmases for us. I still remember waking up to the presents under the tree. I don't remember one bad thing that happened on Christmas. All the cousins spent Christmas vacations with my grandmother on her farm, sliding and eating pea soup.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>They may have fled during or after the Russian revolution. As a little kid, you probably heard more about Hitler than Lenin or Stalin and got the stories mixed up. </p><p></p><p>The Jewish friend I was posting about earlier tells us he was raised in the heart of the Jewish part of New York City. Everywhere around him, everyone was Jewish. He thought the world was that way ~ that everyone was Jewish. When he left his neighborhood, he was devastated to learn there were people who hated him on principle.</p><p></p><p>It was hard for him to know that for a very long time.</p><p></p><p>He loves being Jewish. Loves the ritual and the mystery in it, for him, and the food. They brought potato latkes with apple sauce to Christmas Eve. It was very cool.</p><p></p><p>I wish you could have known that mystery and beauty in your childhood.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>You know? He knew I wouldn't want him. It was an attitude of...I don't know. Nasty. Devaluing both women and coming out on top.</p><p></p><p>Power over, again.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p><p></p><p>Now I know. Then, I didn't really know. But I never forgot that experience, or the bruising on the woman's face.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 664978, member: 17461"] That's awful. I'm so sorry. One of our down South neighbors is Jewish. His partner is Christian. They bring the Menorah and light that days candle for all of us at our house. (Not last year. Last year was just a mess. But for the two ears before that they did. And we heard about his traditions and their meaning and it was truly lovely.) I wish you had had those memories, too. My mother made beautiful Christmases for us. I still remember waking up to the presents under the tree. I don't remember one bad thing that happened on Christmas. All the cousins spent Christmas vacations with my grandmother on her farm, sliding and eating pea soup. They may have fled during or after the Russian revolution. As a little kid, you probably heard more about Hitler than Lenin or Stalin and got the stories mixed up. The Jewish friend I was posting about earlier tells us he was raised in the heart of the Jewish part of New York City. Everywhere around him, everyone was Jewish. He thought the world was that way ~ that everyone was Jewish. When he left his neighborhood, he was devastated to learn there were people who hated him on principle. It was hard for him to know that for a very long time. He loves being Jewish. Loves the ritual and the mystery in it, for him, and the food. They brought potato latkes with apple sauce to Christmas Eve. It was very cool. I wish you could have known that mystery and beauty in your childhood. You know? He knew I wouldn't want him. It was an attitude of...I don't know. Nasty. Devaluing both women and coming out on top. Power over, again. Cedar Now I know. Then, I didn't really know. But I never forgot that experience, or the bruising on the woman's face. [/QUOTE]
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