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In a totally new place and need perspective? Cedar? Anyone?
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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 664980" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>I don't know. If she called, I would wonder whether my mother had died, or was dying. Remember I posted about my sister having left a message in a sad, tired voice "about mom" and it turned out to be that we needed to take her on a beach vacation. Just us. No one but her kids and her grand and me and my mom.</p><p></p><p>roar</p><p></p><p>But it threw me into that whole was-I-wrong in doing what I am doing.</p><p></p><p>As I am sure she intended.</p><p></p><p>What I do, when I think about it (and I don't let the fear of it dominate me like I was for awhile there), is tell myself I will handle it well. </p><p></p><p>That there is nothing I need to do.</p><p></p><p>I would listen, and respond honestly, as I did, last time.</p><p></p><p>I anticipate that my mom will reach out from the grave too, to try to hurt or label me and/or my kids and grands.</p><p></p><p>I understand the dynamic between all of us better now, and I am less vulnerable to it.</p><p></p><p>When I am better, I anticipate letting go altogether.</p><p></p><p>I am not at that place yet. I am heading that direction.</p><p></p><p>So that's good, then.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 664980, member: 17461"] I don't know. If she called, I would wonder whether my mother had died, or was dying. Remember I posted about my sister having left a message in a sad, tired voice "about mom" and it turned out to be that we needed to take her on a beach vacation. Just us. No one but her kids and her grand and me and my mom. roar But it threw me into that whole was-I-wrong in doing what I am doing. As I am sure she intended. What I do, when I think about it (and I don't let the fear of it dominate me like I was for awhile there), is tell myself I will handle it well. That there is nothing I need to do. I would listen, and respond honestly, as I did, last time. I anticipate that my mom will reach out from the grave too, to try to hurt or label me and/or my kids and grands. I understand the dynamic between all of us better now, and I am less vulnerable to it. When I am better, I anticipate letting go altogether. I am not at that place yet. I am heading that direction. So that's good, then. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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