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In a totally new place and need perspective? Cedar? Anyone?
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 665220" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Yes. For sure, this. But go back to that quote, A lie to big to own.</p><p></p><p>Now, on one level every identity is this. Because so little about any of us is authentic. We borrow it from modeling those people like our mother and father, combined with genetics and other environmental influences. But there comes a point in the late twenties and thereafter where there is some possibility of choice. I know that people can be damaged so severely that modification is not permitted by the rigidity of their personalities.</p><p></p><p>I do not know if this is the case with our mothers, or not.</p><p>But I know that my mother knew what she was doing and she knew what she was. She knew it.</p><p>I do not know if this is true. Except if you mean that the picture you had of a Mother was something created out of whole cloth from your own need.</p><p>The lie too big to own.</p><p></p><p>Cedar, I believe that you nurtured a hidden self. Apart from her. From the time you were tiny. Serenity and I did too.</p><p></p><p>It is a big, big question if our mothers could see us ever in any way other than they needed us to be. Except for short intervals. I am really missing my Mother right now. There were dinners out, a lunch out, that were my best memories in my life. My mother did not remember.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 665220, member: 18958"] Yes. For sure, this. But go back to that quote, A lie to big to own. Now, on one level every identity is this. Because so little about any of us is authentic. We borrow it from modeling those people like our mother and father, combined with genetics and other environmental influences. But there comes a point in the late twenties and thereafter where there is some possibility of choice. I know that people can be damaged so severely that modification is not permitted by the rigidity of their personalities. I do not know if this is the case with our mothers, or not. But I know that my mother knew what she was doing and she knew what she was. She knew it. I do not know if this is true. Except if you mean that the picture you had of a Mother was something created out of whole cloth from your own need. The lie too big to own. Cedar, I believe that you nurtured a hidden self. Apart from her. From the time you were tiny. Serenity and I did too. It is a big, big question if our mothers could see us ever in any way other than they needed us to be. Except for short intervals. I am really missing my Mother right now. There were dinners out, a lunch out, that were my best memories in my life. My mother did not remember. [/QUOTE]
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