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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 666226" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I think it is a whole set of circumstances. I think by the time our mother's got out of early childhood, they were already so damaged, a lot for them was predetermined. Also, I think they did not suffer as much as they made other people suffer. So, motivation to change was lacking. I think my mother is to be credited because she went to therapy to have a relationship with her daughters. Had she not done so, I do not know if I would have been willing.</p><p></p><p>I think in a way because we were so targeted, it may have saved us paradoxically from the rigidity and fixed quality of our sisters. Because we were all three marginalized, this gave us a little air bubble of freedom, a place to reflect, to feel apart. This may have been a saving grace as much as it was a cross to bear.</p><p></p><p>I am not saying, Serenity, that they are not responsible. I am not saying that they did not choose themselves, over us. I am not saying that they did not target us. I am saying that they were already broken when they were very young, as were our sisters.</p><p>They knew.</p><p>I do too.</p><p>They did. They chose themselves.</p><p>No.</p><p>Yes, I agree. I am not absolving them of responsibility.</p><p>Yes, I believe she was.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 666226, member: 18958"] I think it is a whole set of circumstances. I think by the time our mother's got out of early childhood, they were already so damaged, a lot for them was predetermined. Also, I think they did not suffer as much as they made other people suffer. So, motivation to change was lacking. I think my mother is to be credited because she went to therapy to have a relationship with her daughters. Had she not done so, I do not know if I would have been willing. I think in a way because we were so targeted, it may have saved us paradoxically from the rigidity and fixed quality of our sisters. Because we were all three marginalized, this gave us a little air bubble of freedom, a place to reflect, to feel apart. This may have been a saving grace as much as it was a cross to bear. I am not saying, Serenity, that they are not responsible. I am not saying that they did not choose themselves, over us. I am not saying that they did not target us. I am saying that they were already broken when they were very young, as were our sisters. They knew. I do too. They did. They chose themselves. No. Yes, I agree. I am not absolving them of responsibility. Yes, I believe she was. [/QUOTE]
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