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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 282298" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>I agree with Suz, you need more help.</p><p>I also think you have to ask yourself what you want? You have major remodeling being done, dealing with the loss of a tragic, unexpected death of your partner, your kids are adolescents and you haven't recovered your health. In between you have to manage a home, deal with relatives, finances and regular world issues that everyone has to deal with. Seems a set up for disaster. </p><p>What can you do and what can't you do? </p><p>Kt gets worse then gets better. It's not unlike teens but severely magnified and with her distorted thinking, difficult to deal with effectively. What is it you want to accomplish? </p><p>Like with everything we deal with we have to set a realistic goal and set up steps to get there. </p><p>You have to take care of your physical health and your emotional health and you have to take care of your kids. None are in the optimium shape at this point in your life. </p><p>What can you do to alleviate some of the less important activity in your life? </p><p>Can you allow yourself a few hours a week to withdraw to paint or play piano? In between,cooking, groceries, cleaning, bill paying,parenting and laundry it doesn't seem easy but you have to have a corner of your world that allows you some peace in order to get recovery. No adults get to do what they like most of the time but most wise adults allow themselves a few hours a week to do it. </p><p>It's pretty overwhelming Linda. You may need to have a caretaker for yourself, home and children. You are clearly dealing with more than most and from a situation where your health prevents you from having the energy that is typical. </p><p>It's going to require you to make some tough plans for the upcoming year. It will get better. It just takes time.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 282298, member: 3"] I agree with Suz, you need more help. I also think you have to ask yourself what you want? You have major remodeling being done, dealing with the loss of a tragic, unexpected death of your partner, your kids are adolescents and you haven't recovered your health. In between you have to manage a home, deal with relatives, finances and regular world issues that everyone has to deal with. Seems a set up for disaster. What can you do and what can't you do? Kt gets worse then gets better. It's not unlike teens but severely magnified and with her distorted thinking, difficult to deal with effectively. What is it you want to accomplish? Like with everything we deal with we have to set a realistic goal and set up steps to get there. You have to take care of your physical health and your emotional health and you have to take care of your kids. None are in the optimium shape at this point in your life. What can you do to alleviate some of the less important activity in your life? Can you allow yourself a few hours a week to withdraw to paint or play piano? In between,cooking, groceries, cleaning, bill paying,parenting and laundry it doesn't seem easy but you have to have a corner of your world that allows you some peace in order to get recovery. No adults get to do what they like most of the time but most wise adults allow themselves a few hours a week to do it. It's pretty overwhelming Linda. You may need to have a caretaker for yourself, home and children. You are clearly dealing with more than most and from a situation where your health prevents you from having the energy that is typical. It's going to require you to make some tough plans for the upcoming year. It will get better. It just takes time. [/QUOTE]
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