I feel that I just can not win. My husband and difficult child are ridiculous. They will not talk to each other. difficult child will not stay in the house with husband alone. husband expects difficult child to jump when spoken to or told to do something. husband and I do not talk about difficult child or his issues at all. He is so angry and hateful towards him and the situation that I am now not even telling him anything anymore. Throughout the past 6 months we have lost hold of our relationship and I now only see time ticking away until one of us walks out forever. We have 2 little ones so they are truly the ones who will suffer. Counseling...he thinks he is just fine and that he doesn't need counseling. We went to one session before and it was horrible. The entire time he only talked about how horrible life was for him, how horrible of a wife I am, how he is doing nothing wrong, etc. etc. I am just tired of being put in the middle between a defiant 15 year old and a 39 year old who has totally checked out of the situation. Can they both not see that they are destroying my soul. I don't think I can keep it together. I am constantly sick, losing weight, my hair is falling out in clumps, my stomach is always in a knot, and I have absolutely no enjoyment of life. I have been completey broken down. We are traveling back to my home for Christmas and I think I just want to stay and not come back to VA.