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In The Past, It was Threats, But Tonight Is the Night..
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<blockquote data-quote="Signorina" data-source="post: 602164"><p>I've been in your shoes too. We've actually gone thru the wringer with my son leaving 3 times and it's wrenching.</p><p></p><p>My pcs were 17 & 14 (boys too) and it was hard on them as well. I gave my older easy child a Visa card & told him that whenever difficult child was on a tear- he should grab his younger brother & leave the house. Go to the movies, gorge on MCDs, buy new video games; anything to stay busy and be away for the height of the difficult child drama & the volatility. It was too much for them to witness & comprehend as a front row audience. (I'm speaking from my own experience as a once younger easy child with a difficult child brother.)</p><p></p><p>My difficult child never left peacefully. Likewise, I was never was able to be on an even keel when he left. I vacillated between begging him to get help, telling him I loved him and getting angry at him for being such a jerk. It didn't help the situation. So, the last time h asked him to leave (jan 2012), we waited until the pcs were in school and I left the house after kissing him goodbye & telling him I loved him. I just couldn't watch him pack up & leave again. I sat in my car in a parking lot, sobbed & posted here. I was a mess, but it was much less traumatic for all of us. So think about getting lost for a few hours. And try to shield your easy child as much as you can. Don't sugar coat it-but don't let him witness it all. </p><p></p><p>God bless. It's awful, I know. A place no one wants to be. You are doing the right thing. And it hurts-we get it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Signorina, post: 602164"] I've been in your shoes too. We've actually gone thru the wringer with my son leaving 3 times and it's wrenching. My pcs were 17 & 14 (boys too) and it was hard on them as well. I gave my older easy child a Visa card & told him that whenever difficult child was on a tear- he should grab his younger brother & leave the house. Go to the movies, gorge on MCDs, buy new video games; anything to stay busy and be away for the height of the difficult child drama & the volatility. It was too much for them to witness & comprehend as a front row audience. (I'm speaking from my own experience as a once younger easy child with a difficult child brother.) My difficult child never left peacefully. Likewise, I was never was able to be on an even keel when he left. I vacillated between begging him to get help, telling him I loved him and getting angry at him for being such a jerk. It didn't help the situation. So, the last time h asked him to leave (jan 2012), we waited until the pcs were in school and I left the house after kissing him goodbye & telling him I loved him. I just couldn't watch him pack up & leave again. I sat in my car in a parking lot, sobbed & posted here. I was a mess, but it was much less traumatic for all of us. So think about getting lost for a few hours. And try to shield your easy child as much as you can. Don't sugar coat it-but don't let him witness it all. God bless. It's awful, I know. A place no one wants to be. You are doing the right thing. And it hurts-we get it. [/QUOTE]
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