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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 546820"><p>Saw on Oprah's Lifeclass today something interesting. Kinda surprised me. Two adult daughters were disappointed that their mother didn't want to spend a significant amount of time with them and the grandchildren. She did spend time with them, but perhaps because she was still working, she chose to not always be available for them. This, I felt at first, was a bit unkind, etc. But, it was pointed out, that the mother is an adult woman and has every right to make choices on how she wishes to live her life. </p><p></p><p>Your mother does not have young children anymore. You are an adult and even if you personally would do it different as a grandmother, she can make the personal choice to ask you to bring the grandchildren to her and to ask for things to be done in a way that would allow for more convenience for her. Hopefully, she would make exceptions for emergencies....etc...but it really is her personal right to do things differently than you would and she did email you an apology...she seems to care. </p><p></p><p>I totally agree with the others...not such a hot idea to send her medical reports etc. and probably a good idea to limit detailed information. If she asks for medical information, etc. you might provide a little more....but I wouldn't "hand her" this kind of stuff and open yourself up to her opinions. I agree...keep discussions "light."</p><p></p><p>Sounds like emailing her and dropping off the kids might very well work out...this way you should be able to keep your promise.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 546820"] Saw on Oprah's Lifeclass today something interesting. Kinda surprised me. Two adult daughters were disappointed that their mother didn't want to spend a significant amount of time with them and the grandchildren. She did spend time with them, but perhaps because she was still working, she chose to not always be available for them. This, I felt at first, was a bit unkind, etc. But, it was pointed out, that the mother is an adult woman and has every right to make choices on how she wishes to live her life. Your mother does not have young children anymore. You are an adult and even if you personally would do it different as a grandmother, she can make the personal choice to ask you to bring the grandchildren to her and to ask for things to be done in a way that would allow for more convenience for her. Hopefully, she would make exceptions for emergencies....etc...but it really is her personal right to do things differently than you would and she did email you an apology...she seems to care. I totally agree with the others...not such a hot idea to send her medical reports etc. and probably a good idea to limit detailed information. If she asks for medical information, etc. you might provide a little more....but I wouldn't "hand her" this kind of stuff and open yourself up to her opinions. I agree...keep discussions "light." Sounds like emailing her and dropping off the kids might very well work out...this way you should be able to keep your promise. [/QUOTE]
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