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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 715767" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>A last thought:we should not feel like screaming in hysteria and regret after we do something.if we are quietly sad, but know we did what was right for us and our fsmily, that is different. The hysteria reaction indicates indecision and fear. </p><p>No decision that causes that sort of reaction is a good choice by us. Our gut should be telling us we did the right thing and let us live with it.i dont feel any route that leaves us in that sort of anguish is a good choice. We do not have to talk to our grown kids about everything. We do not always need to tell them our moral stances...if they are not thriving, they wont listen. Even if they are easy kids no adult child listens to a nagging, bossy parent. That does cause alienation.</p><p></p><p>I learned to ask "Are you asking for my feedback or just venting?"</p><p></p><p>If what you do makes you feel horrible/hysterical...in my opinion it should not be our reaction, but set aside for a reaction from us that we can live with.</p><p></p><p>None of us can save the world. I dont think this teacher is anywhere near right in picking on a student 18 or not, but I dont think 40 year old men who, by virtue of years alive, know more than 18 year olds, should prey on any 18 year old. But they legally can and do.</p><p></p><p>We have to choke on it sometimes if we want to help our adult kids. It would be far worse for Ferb if he stopped saying anything to his mother. His support system would be the teacher.</p><p></p><p>Just my thoughts.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 715767, member: 1550"] A last thought:we should not feel like screaming in hysteria and regret after we do something.if we are quietly sad, but know we did what was right for us and our fsmily, that is different. The hysteria reaction indicates indecision and fear. No decision that causes that sort of reaction is a good choice by us. Our gut should be telling us we did the right thing and let us live with it.i dont feel any route that leaves us in that sort of anguish is a good choice. We do not have to talk to our grown kids about everything. We do not always need to tell them our moral stances...if they are not thriving, they wont listen. Even if they are easy kids no adult child listens to a nagging, bossy parent. That does cause alienation. I learned to ask "Are you asking for my feedback or just venting?" If what you do makes you feel horrible/hysterical...in my opinion it should not be our reaction, but set aside for a reaction from us that we can live with. None of us can save the world. I dont think this teacher is anywhere near right in picking on a student 18 or not, but I dont think 40 year old men who, by virtue of years alive, know more than 18 year olds, should prey on any 18 year old. But they legally can and do. We have to choke on it sometimes if we want to help our adult kids. It would be far worse for Ferb if he stopped saying anything to his mother. His support system would be the teacher. Just my thoughts. [/QUOTE]
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