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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 395813" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>in my opinion there are a LOT of kids who think this way. Schools focus sooo much on "self esteem" and so many sources give lots of praise for very little work that the kids simply do not believe it. It is an ugly reality that has comoe from the last couple of decades of easy praise. Sort of the way trophies do not mean much to many kids because they get them regardless of how they perform in sports. My nephew, now in his 20's, had three large BOXES of trophies by the time he was 8. He played several sports, and every single weekend was a tournament where they gave away a LOT of trophies. He never did really value them because they were too easy to get. Same goes for praise. It wasn't until he got praise for something he WORKED HARD for that he ever believed the praise. </p><p> </p><p>Even my kids don't like to hear praise all the time. They would rather only get it when they truly have earned it. Wiz was the difficult child who NEVER even registered praise unless we praised him to another person - if we said it to him he didn't believe it. I think there are a whole lot of kids who think the way your daughter does.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 395813, member: 1233"] in my opinion there are a LOT of kids who think this way. Schools focus sooo much on "self esteem" and so many sources give lots of praise for very little work that the kids simply do not believe it. It is an ugly reality that has comoe from the last couple of decades of easy praise. Sort of the way trophies do not mean much to many kids because they get them regardless of how they perform in sports. My nephew, now in his 20's, had three large BOXES of trophies by the time he was 8. He played several sports, and every single weekend was a tournament where they gave away a LOT of trophies. He never did really value them because they were too easy to get. Same goes for praise. It wasn't until he got praise for something he WORKED HARD for that he ever believed the praise. Even my kids don't like to hear praise all the time. They would rather only get it when they truly have earned it. Wiz was the difficult child who NEVER even registered praise unless we praised him to another person - if we said it to him he didn't believe it. I think there are a whole lot of kids who think the way your daughter does. [/QUOTE]
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