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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 362283"><p>Suz...you are missing ALOT!</p><p>difficult child really SHOULD be in some sort of managed facility. Well, let's put it this way...she is a hair away from this perspective. Our state is one of the worst in the country for opportunities for that AND difficult child is NOT open to going.</p><p>She has been evicted approximately 13 times in the last 18 months. I have lost count.</p><p>MOST have been because of odd decisions she has made allowing others to come into her life. She can NOT say no.</p><p>She has had, for example, nine homeless men living in her place. SOME were convicted felons. </p><p>She has OFTEN gone hungry. She gets her food stamp money and spends a month's worth in a week. Sometimes she gives it away, sometimes she eats it all.</p><p>There are TOOOOO many stories to tell. She has also been hungry and in danger many, many times.</p><p>These people care for her and are protecting her since she does not seem at least for now to have common sense. Sense enough to protect herself from harm (often)). AND, my guess is they are protecting their own home and property.</p><p>It is, to be sure, a complicated situation....but a potential blessing and man oh man, I personally am VERT grateful.</p><p>difficult child...probably another story. I thank G-d above that this is a moment in history that someone has offered real help. It happens so RARELY. I pray difficult child takes it...would do her good. She can't even hold down a job...at least partially because she is moving so much. Can't save a penny...at least partially cause she is moving so much. But the worst of it, is putting herself in harm's way.</p><p>If difficult child were to go to the managed type facilities here, the rules would be significantly more strigent. She knows this. </p><p>The homeowners have said that if she can follow these fules for awhile, they night lighten up a bit on the weekends. </p><p>Overall, the situation is not bad. She is near a bus stop...can meet her friends at the nearby local coffee shop, etc. AND she is very friendly with the homeowner's young step daughter....who is sweet and kind to her.</p><p>It's the BEST situation by far she has had in the last 18 months or so.</p><p>We told her if she promises to stay at least until Sept. (which she did) we will get her the frig and microwave by Sunday night. </p><p>Don't know if I should bother having her sign something. Years of being ripped off has me skeptical.</p><p>But the unusual situation, I think, warrants some help.</p><p>I am so GRATEFUL for the potential help/improvement/safety/stability for difficult child after nearly two years of chaos, etc. It has been my experience that gratefulness is something difficult children are not really good at. I pray that this changes.</p><p>We are keeping our eyes out for any unfairness toward difficult child. But so far, they have been very fair. The rent is fair and they have thrown in the meals because they felt bad about not letting her use the kitchen. She can use the pool and laundry room and they literally gave up their garage so she can put her cats in there. They have no problem with- her setting up a microwave and refrigerator. The place large and lovely, in a GREAT neighborhood. Sure, not ideal for a difficult child....but she is safe and it is far better than a treatment type facility...especially since difficult child vehemently refuses to go to a place like that.</p><p>difficult child is thrilled about the refrigerator, and has had (knock on wood) several good days.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 362283"] Suz...you are missing ALOT! difficult child really SHOULD be in some sort of managed facility. Well, let's put it this way...she is a hair away from this perspective. Our state is one of the worst in the country for opportunities for that AND difficult child is NOT open to going. She has been evicted approximately 13 times in the last 18 months. I have lost count. MOST have been because of odd decisions she has made allowing others to come into her life. She can NOT say no. She has had, for example, nine homeless men living in her place. SOME were convicted felons. She has OFTEN gone hungry. She gets her food stamp money and spends a month's worth in a week. Sometimes she gives it away, sometimes she eats it all. There are TOOOOO many stories to tell. She has also been hungry and in danger many, many times. These people care for her and are protecting her since she does not seem at least for now to have common sense. Sense enough to protect herself from harm (often)). AND, my guess is they are protecting their own home and property. It is, to be sure, a complicated situation....but a potential blessing and man oh man, I personally am VERT grateful. difficult child...probably another story. I thank G-d above that this is a moment in history that someone has offered real help. It happens so RARELY. I pray difficult child takes it...would do her good. She can't even hold down a job...at least partially because she is moving so much. Can't save a penny...at least partially cause she is moving so much. But the worst of it, is putting herself in harm's way. If difficult child were to go to the managed type facilities here, the rules would be significantly more strigent. She knows this. The homeowners have said that if she can follow these fules for awhile, they night lighten up a bit on the weekends. Overall, the situation is not bad. She is near a bus stop...can meet her friends at the nearby local coffee shop, etc. AND she is very friendly with the homeowner's young step daughter....who is sweet and kind to her. It's the BEST situation by far she has had in the last 18 months or so. We told her if she promises to stay at least until Sept. (which she did) we will get her the frig and microwave by Sunday night. Don't know if I should bother having her sign something. Years of being ripped off has me skeptical. But the unusual situation, I think, warrants some help. I am so GRATEFUL for the potential help/improvement/safety/stability for difficult child after nearly two years of chaos, etc. It has been my experience that gratefulness is something difficult children are not really good at. I pray that this changes. We are keeping our eyes out for any unfairness toward difficult child. But so far, they have been very fair. The rent is fair and they have thrown in the meals because they felt bad about not letting her use the kitchen. She can use the pool and laundry room and they literally gave up their garage so she can put her cats in there. They have no problem with- her setting up a microwave and refrigerator. The place large and lovely, in a GREAT neighborhood. Sure, not ideal for a difficult child....but she is safe and it is far better than a treatment type facility...especially since difficult child vehemently refuses to go to a place like that. difficult child is thrilled about the refrigerator, and has had (knock on wood) several good days. [/QUOTE]
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