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<blockquote data-quote="ColleenB" data-source="post: 723204" data-attributes="member: 19887"><p>I am in awe of the young people who are my sons friends. They took this on and I couldn’t be more grateful. The first thing they did was sit down with me and tell me everything they knew. Some of it wasn’t a surprise and some of it was disturbing. They confirmed he was still dealing and that some of the people he was involved with were dangerous. They told me he had been trying to step away but the dealers were telling him he had debts he needed to pay ... etc. They also had gone down to our mental health agency and talked to someone about how to do an intervention. </p><p>When he finally showed up they were amazing. The first thing g they did was apologize to him for not doing it sooner. Wow. </p><p></p><p>These young poeple have all moved on from where my son is, doing masters degrees, working etc... they are wonderful young people. They told him they loved him and how he had been there for them in past years and how much they appreciated his support in the past. They went on to say what they were seeing happen to him. He responded emotionally but he was grateful and said he knew he was not in a good place and he was surrounded by “shitty” people. They offered to be there for him and even mapped out what his next 24 hours would look like and how they would help. The evening even ended with them all laughing and telling stories from high school and his first year or two of university. The friend whose house it was at is our best friends who Son has grown up with. My husband and friends Dad coached the boys for ten years in hockey. And we travel with the couple regularly. The Mom, one of my closest friend, even told him how he was there for her son in early high school when he was depressed and helped him make friends and was his constant and how forever grateful she was. </p><p></p><p>He came home with us. His roommate is unstable and calling him constantly about how my son has worried him so much he has started using drugs and is suicidal ( long story but after talking to this boy on the phone he is an addict with major emotional concerns who says his parents want nothing to do with him) I advised he go to a hospital. He is not healthy for my son at this time. </p><p></p><p>Today he went into school, spoke to his guidance counsellor then had a doctors appointment to talk about his concussion and his sleeping pill addiction, and the benzos. Apparently the benzos are not regular but he did use Xanax on weekend. He has been using sleeping pills howwver. </p><p></p><p>His friends took over and accompanied him to mental health and an addiction counsellor. They kept him for the afternoon and brought him to me at supper time. It was such a relief having them help and it not being just my husband and I. Whatever happens I will be forever grateful for these amazing young people in my sons life. </p><p></p><p>We are taking it a day at a time. He is going to go to school tomorrow, my aunt is going to take him, as I go so early and my husband is out of town today. He thankfully because os the support I got yesterday was able to still go on his business trip. He has canceled so many trips due to son and this was a huge blessing. </p><p></p><p>My little one at work yesterday needed me to sit on the floor and just rub his back for over an hour and I think I may have benefited just as much as he did. My heart is breaking for this wee boy who has no one to love him right now and it makes me so grateful for all the ones who love my son. I have to be this little ones advocate right now and because of the support I am getting for my son I can be. I was able to be at work and know my son was with people who really loved him. How blessed am I? </p><p></p><p>Today is a new day... I am scared ... oh so scared. But I am hopeful. And grateful.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ColleenB, post: 723204, member: 19887"] I am in awe of the young people who are my sons friends. They took this on and I couldn’t be more grateful. The first thing they did was sit down with me and tell me everything they knew. Some of it wasn’t a surprise and some of it was disturbing. They confirmed he was still dealing and that some of the people he was involved with were dangerous. They told me he had been trying to step away but the dealers were telling him he had debts he needed to pay ... etc. They also had gone down to our mental health agency and talked to someone about how to do an intervention. When he finally showed up they were amazing. The first thing g they did was apologize to him for not doing it sooner. Wow. These young poeple have all moved on from where my son is, doing masters degrees, working etc... they are wonderful young people. They told him they loved him and how he had been there for them in past years and how much they appreciated his support in the past. They went on to say what they were seeing happen to him. He responded emotionally but he was grateful and said he knew he was not in a good place and he was surrounded by “shitty” people. They offered to be there for him and even mapped out what his next 24 hours would look like and how they would help. The evening even ended with them all laughing and telling stories from high school and his first year or two of university. The friend whose house it was at is our best friends who Son has grown up with. My husband and friends Dad coached the boys for ten years in hockey. And we travel with the couple regularly. The Mom, one of my closest friend, even told him how he was there for her son in early high school when he was depressed and helped him make friends and was his constant and how forever grateful she was. He came home with us. His roommate is unstable and calling him constantly about how my son has worried him so much he has started using drugs and is suicidal ( long story but after talking to this boy on the phone he is an addict with major emotional concerns who says his parents want nothing to do with him) I advised he go to a hospital. He is not healthy for my son at this time. Today he went into school, spoke to his guidance counsellor then had a doctors appointment to talk about his concussion and his sleeping pill addiction, and the benzos. Apparently the benzos are not regular but he did use Xanax on weekend. He has been using sleeping pills howwver. His friends took over and accompanied him to mental health and an addiction counsellor. They kept him for the afternoon and brought him to me at supper time. It was such a relief having them help and it not being just my husband and I. Whatever happens I will be forever grateful for these amazing young people in my sons life. We are taking it a day at a time. He is going to go to school tomorrow, my aunt is going to take him, as I go so early and my husband is out of town today. He thankfully because os the support I got yesterday was able to still go on his business trip. He has canceled so many trips due to son and this was a huge blessing. My little one at work yesterday needed me to sit on the floor and just rub his back for over an hour and I think I may have benefited just as much as he did. My heart is breaking for this wee boy who has no one to love him right now and it makes me so grateful for all the ones who love my son. I have to be this little ones advocate right now and because of the support I am getting for my son I can be. I was able to be at work and know my son was with people who really loved him. How blessed am I? Today is a new day... I am scared ... oh so scared. But I am hopeful. And grateful. [/QUOTE]
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