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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 59817" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>It sounds like it's not so much difficult child's fault about the dog, but simply circumstances. The kids are just too young, for the dog's understanding. Some dogs cope, others do not. I had a dog when I was a baby, who was almost my nanny. I could do anything to that dog. I only have dim memories of him but I do remember sitting in the garden ON the dog (we were both on the ground) and pulling at various bits of him while my sister took a photo. When I look at the photo I can see how young I was - less than two. I would pull his teeth, try to grab his tongue (too slippery) and stick my fingers as far down his ears as I could, but he would always flick his head. But he never got up and walked away, never growled. Just sat there and took it.</p><p></p><p>Unless the dog is this tolerant, it's got to go. For the sake of the dog, for the sake of the boys and even for the girls too, so they can learn that compromises are necessary and to blame people is not correct. If the dog stays, you're stressed, the boys are always in trouble (and tense) and the dog is also wired up and stressed. All this feeds back and forth getting worse for all. A break form each other is needed. </p><p>Sending the dog away needn't be a permanent parting - surely they can meet in a park sometimes? Supervised play? When the boys are older and a bit more aware, they could learn to play with the dog more appropriately. But forcing it now - it undermines future chances.</p><p></p><p>Good luck with the assessments all round - very stressful.</p><p></p><p>The sunken chest - difficult child 3 had a teacher who I think has that. I never asked her, but it's really obvious (to me) in summer. She's still quite young but very senior in the school. I think I remember her saying she gets asthma sometimes. I've never seen her ill, though.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 59817, member: 1991"] It sounds like it's not so much difficult child's fault about the dog, but simply circumstances. The kids are just too young, for the dog's understanding. Some dogs cope, others do not. I had a dog when I was a baby, who was almost my nanny. I could do anything to that dog. I only have dim memories of him but I do remember sitting in the garden ON the dog (we were both on the ground) and pulling at various bits of him while my sister took a photo. When I look at the photo I can see how young I was - less than two. I would pull his teeth, try to grab his tongue (too slippery) and stick my fingers as far down his ears as I could, but he would always flick his head. But he never got up and walked away, never growled. Just sat there and took it. Unless the dog is this tolerant, it's got to go. For the sake of the dog, for the sake of the boys and even for the girls too, so they can learn that compromises are necessary and to blame people is not correct. If the dog stays, you're stressed, the boys are always in trouble (and tense) and the dog is also wired up and stressed. All this feeds back and forth getting worse for all. A break form each other is needed. Sending the dog away needn't be a permanent parting - surely they can meet in a park sometimes? Supervised play? When the boys are older and a bit more aware, they could learn to play with the dog more appropriately. But forcing it now - it undermines future chances. Good luck with the assessments all round - very stressful. The sunken chest - difficult child 3 had a teacher who I think has that. I never asked her, but it's really obvious (to me) in summer. She's still quite young but very senior in the school. I think I remember her saying she gets asthma sometimes. I've never seen her ill, though. Marg [/QUOTE]
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