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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 492948" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>First off, ((((((((((hugs))))))))))</p><p></p><p>I know it is hard to homeschool a child who doesn't "fit in" with other kids. Homeschooled kids are more tolerant, usually, but not always. We often found the groups who demanded you be of their brand of religion were less tolerant than public schools. I have homeschooled various kids at various times for various reasons. I tend to evaluate things every semester to see what will work for the child right now. This makes me the "weirdo" in our homeschooling groups, lol.</p><p></p><p>Your sons may not be ready to be with other kids right now. I know that makes it hard for you, but they are still young enough that unschooling may be vastly more effective than any set curriculum. If you have not heard of or researched unschooling, don't write it off right away. It is counter-intuitive, but it CAN be the best and sometimes ONLY way to meet a child's needs. It won't happen in any school and likely isn't right for your son with Aspergers, thought I doubt it woudl harm him.</p><p></p><p>Unschooling, when done with little electronics esp tv/video, allows kids to eplore their world and learn in a pace and manner that suits them. Tv/videos can interfere with this, esp if tehre are a lot of commercials because it brings things in that tehy just are not ready for. If there are videos that calm them, by ALL means don't get rid of them. just follow your instincts and use them judiciously. Video games can help or hurt, again you have to follow your instincts and judgement and NOT the outside world's. </p><p></p><p>This next may sound very strange, but it might help. Do you know anyone iwth a deep, soothing voice? Ask them to record stories onto cd/audiotape for you. Let the boys listen to these when they want. My dad has an incredibly soothing voice and years ago he recorded Uncle Wiggily stories for my kids. He taught jr high and never had a gifted kid in his almsot 4 decades because the other teachers all fought over them. He had the special needs, etc.. kids no one wanted. He gave one of them a copy of a tape he made for my son and it was amazing. This girl had Intermittent Explosive Disorder (IED) (Intermittent explosive disorder) and could trash a classroom in under a minute with NO notice seh was going to explode. WIth use of tapes liek that, she was able to learn to calm herself. She was in jr high, but no one had ever even tried it with her before then. My dad just refused to let a child behave liek that in his classroom so he foudn a way to stop it and now? he just learned that she got an associate's degree and is working with animals and supporting herself and her baby daughter. Talk about a HUGE change that NO ONE expected.</p><p></p><p>I found that the deep soothing voice (Dad's is so soothing that we couldn't listen on the car stereo because it put husband and I to sleep! - others have had it happen too) in stories that were so totally designed ffor kids and so totally NOT violent, were amazing tools to help reach my son.</p><p></p><p>Today's videos are so violent, we used to have tto remove the dang Disney videos because they triggered violence in our oldest, and it made me SICK and made life a lot harder for all of us. The odler stories, like uncle wiggily, etc.... were a lot more helpful. If you can find someone to record audio stories in a calming voice for your son, it might reach him in an unexpected way and help him learn to self soothe. It takes time, but.....</p><p></p><p>I know unschooling will seem odd and maybe strange/bizarre, but I know kids in college with top honors and full scholarships who were unschooled through high school - it puts the child in control and takes out a lot of the artificial demands that are part of traditional education. It isn't right for everyone or every agge, but it can be an effective tool for some.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 492948, member: 1233"] First off, ((((((((((hugs)))))))))) I know it is hard to homeschool a child who doesn't "fit in" with other kids. Homeschooled kids are more tolerant, usually, but not always. We often found the groups who demanded you be of their brand of religion were less tolerant than public schools. I have homeschooled various kids at various times for various reasons. I tend to evaluate things every semester to see what will work for the child right now. This makes me the "weirdo" in our homeschooling groups, lol. Your sons may not be ready to be with other kids right now. I know that makes it hard for you, but they are still young enough that unschooling may be vastly more effective than any set curriculum. If you have not heard of or researched unschooling, don't write it off right away. It is counter-intuitive, but it CAN be the best and sometimes ONLY way to meet a child's needs. It won't happen in any school and likely isn't right for your son with Aspergers, thought I doubt it woudl harm him. Unschooling, when done with little electronics esp tv/video, allows kids to eplore their world and learn in a pace and manner that suits them. Tv/videos can interfere with this, esp if tehre are a lot of commercials because it brings things in that tehy just are not ready for. If there are videos that calm them, by ALL means don't get rid of them. just follow your instincts and use them judiciously. Video games can help or hurt, again you have to follow your instincts and judgement and NOT the outside world's. This next may sound very strange, but it might help. Do you know anyone iwth a deep, soothing voice? Ask them to record stories onto cd/audiotape for you. Let the boys listen to these when they want. My dad has an incredibly soothing voice and years ago he recorded Uncle Wiggily stories for my kids. He taught jr high and never had a gifted kid in his almsot 4 decades because the other teachers all fought over them. He had the special needs, etc.. kids no one wanted. He gave one of them a copy of a tape he made for my son and it was amazing. This girl had Intermittent Explosive Disorder (IED) (Intermittent explosive disorder) and could trash a classroom in under a minute with NO notice seh was going to explode. WIth use of tapes liek that, she was able to learn to calm herself. She was in jr high, but no one had ever even tried it with her before then. My dad just refused to let a child behave liek that in his classroom so he foudn a way to stop it and now? he just learned that she got an associate's degree and is working with animals and supporting herself and her baby daughter. Talk about a HUGE change that NO ONE expected. I found that the deep soothing voice (Dad's is so soothing that we couldn't listen on the car stereo because it put husband and I to sleep! - others have had it happen too) in stories that were so totally designed ffor kids and so totally NOT violent, were amazing tools to help reach my son. Today's videos are so violent, we used to have tto remove the dang Disney videos because they triggered violence in our oldest, and it made me SICK and made life a lot harder for all of us. The odler stories, like uncle wiggily, etc.... were a lot more helpful. If you can find someone to record audio stories in a calming voice for your son, it might reach him in an unexpected way and help him learn to self soothe. It takes time, but..... I know unschooling will seem odd and maybe strange/bizarre, but I know kids in college with top honors and full scholarships who were unschooled through high school - it puts the child in control and takes out a lot of the artificial demands that are part of traditional education. It isn't right for everyone or every agge, but it can be an effective tool for some. [/QUOTE]
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