Hello all. So glad to find this forum. I am married, mom to twin six-year-old boys; we live in the Hudson Valley. Right now we're homeschooling and it's driving me The boys were born at 27 weeks and spent three months in the NICU. Twin A ("Bug") had a brain bleed when he was born (known as an interventricular hemorrhage), the most severe kind,a grade IV. He's been in early intervention, CPSE, etc--he has Aspergers-type autism and mild CP. He just had surgery for esotropia (eyes). He has pronounced sensory needs, is a spitter, food stealer, etc. He's also hyperlexic. He's been reading since he was about 2.5, and he's extremely bright, has a photographic memory, etc. Twin B ("Brownie") was a fussy infant, colicky, etc, but was a pretty mild-mannered toddler. Right around three all hell broke loose. He suffered from extreme constipation/encopresis (stool holding). A lot of his behavior at the time was just normal "three" stuff, I guess--but it's not like all that much has changed. When he was four, he was diagnosis'd ADHD. When we returned to the developmental pediatrician, she changed his diagnosis to "anxious and oppositional behaviors"--useless. He is intolerant of any and all limits. We do go through "lulls"--but the most benign requests/discussions can trigger bizarre, violent reactions. We were discussing presents for his grandparents--he didn't want to get them anything--and I was explaining how it would be fun to look for things, etc and the next thing I know his DS is richocheting off my dashboard. So no more DS in the car. If we try to give him a "countdown" or warning or whatever you call it: say, ten minutes until it's time to get off the computer--the minute we mention it he slams the computer shut, runs away screaming, etc. Things were a little better for a while, but now we're back to the old ways, so I guess the computer will be off-limits again for a while He has an IEP, but the school administration tried to retain him for Kindergarten, which we objected to for a number of reasons. Right now both boys are homeschooled while we consult with a lawyer about next year. Homeschooling is awful. Very few families/programs are tolerant of their needs. Brownie does weird things like run away the minute an adult speaks to him, or if the mildest correction is made it's "you think I'm stupid, you hate me" etc. We've also heard plenty of "I hate you" etc. Sigh. Again.