"I'm angry at the system because I can't protect Itty Bit from growing up in a house like this."
Hello. Welcome to our corner of the web. When I read what you wrote about being angry about not being able to protect your younger child from your older one, it struck a cord with me. I feel the exact same way. When my son is behaving he can be really great, but when his switch gets flipped, watch out!! It gets really bad, and my Difficult Child has told everyone that he will go after Easy Child to get back at me. While I'm not the one who is physically causing Easy Child havoc, I carry a great deal of guilt that I can't protect him better than I do.
The first time we called the police, our Difficult Child had pretty much the same reaction as yours. She was quiet and respectful to the responding officer, but the minute he left Difficult Child was right back to where we were before we called. It did nothing. He could have cared less that we had to call the police. In his world, it's always everyone else's fault anyway.
What is DMDD?
