Ok, First time I tried to quote! I don't know how it will be!!! Ok, My son said " because your my parents" wait what? ( Thats one of the things I accomplished with him this last week that I wasnt going to post yet, but your going through this too. Same with his Encopresis, he said " doesnt always change because hes "lazy" or "busy"". But personally he knows it bother us as well, so its another purposely done issue on that I think. Why do they think just because we are their parents they can do this? Are we"easier" then others? Maybe tired of it and just dont want any more drama, its an exhausting battle 
I just had to write you before my caffeine( hehe) because my son said similar. But he didnt say that we " "always going to be my family no matter what " like your daughter said, when I asked dont we deserve the same respect as others? He didn't say any thing. See, my son hasnt let "loose" on neighbors or the school yet( thank goodness) but has a few times looked like he was, slammed a door, wouldnt answer them etc, so he is slowly starting to get more "comfortable" with them, esp neighbors kids getting bossier etc..
Im hoping in home therapy will also help mine, Im glad your another person trying it, I think its good to see how the kids and parent are in their own comfort of the home. I hope things get better for your daughter and your family. Also love your answer and your right, they need to understand they are hurting us, but esp themselves, and family can only take so much.
