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<blockquote data-quote="confuzzled" data-source="post: 430951" data-attributes="member: 8831"><p>here's my .02, and its probably worth exactly that...</p><p> </p><p>as ridiculous as it sounds, i would look very seriously more towards severe anxiety/post tramatic stress syndrome before i'd be looking toward ODD, which is more of a symptom anyway.</p><p> </p><p>does the therapist ever focus on when your younger one was sick? in my opinion, you are very right that it was normal sib rilvary before....the illness was the defining moment. it might seem like he doesnt remember or that one has nothing to do with the other, but a sick sibling can be a massive trama to a young kid. and i dont even mean the fear that #2 might die--the whole routine, family dynamic, life in general changes---the enormity of that impact on a 5ish year old is unfathonable (not that it wasnt on you and husband, but you as adults have better coping skills and reasoning abilities, if that makes sense). i'm going to do that assuming thing again where i say you were probably too busy with #2 to deal with #1 at the time--which is what we all do, rightly so--but then it somehow all gets forgotten about when the crisis is over. i'm taking away from your post that therapy is more to deal with #1's behavior/mood stuff now....but issues like trust, blame, fear and uncertainty run so deep that they really need to be formally addressed along with coping stuff. (i know that is so oversimplified, and you may be doing all of that already)</p><p> </p><p>all that said, i dont have any words of wisdom for you other than to say there is a lot of success with a therapy called EMDR if, in fact it is a PTSD type thing. it also might be helpful if you called the treating hospital for #2 if its close enough to see if they have any sibling groups (try the child life department, sometimes they run that type of group, or any support group, even in the name of "fun" might help). </p><p> </p><p>anyway, welcome <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="confuzzled, post: 430951, member: 8831"] here's my .02, and its probably worth exactly that... as ridiculous as it sounds, i would look very seriously more towards severe anxiety/post tramatic stress syndrome before i'd be looking toward ODD, which is more of a symptom anyway. does the therapist ever focus on when your younger one was sick? in my opinion, you are very right that it was normal sib rilvary before....the illness was the defining moment. it might seem like he doesnt remember or that one has nothing to do with the other, but a sick sibling can be a massive trama to a young kid. and i dont even mean the fear that #2 might die--the whole routine, family dynamic, life in general changes---the enormity of that impact on a 5ish year old is unfathonable (not that it wasnt on you and husband, but you as adults have better coping skills and reasoning abilities, if that makes sense). i'm going to do that assuming thing again where i say you were probably too busy with #2 to deal with #1 at the time--which is what we all do, rightly so--but then it somehow all gets forgotten about when the crisis is over. i'm taking away from your post that therapy is more to deal with #1's behavior/mood stuff now....but issues like trust, blame, fear and uncertainty run so deep that they really need to be formally addressed along with coping stuff. (i know that is so oversimplified, and you may be doing all of that already) all that said, i dont have any words of wisdom for you other than to say there is a lot of success with a therapy called EMDR if, in fact it is a PTSD type thing. it also might be helpful if you called the treating hospital for #2 if its close enough to see if they have any sibling groups (try the child life department, sometimes they run that type of group, or any support group, even in the name of "fun" might help). anyway, welcome :-) [/QUOTE]
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