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<blockquote data-quote="Allan-Matlem" data-source="post: 431160" data-attributes="member: 10"><p>lost my reply</p><p></p><p>check the cps sites <a href="http://livesinthebalance.org" target="_blank">http://livesinthebalance.org</a> <a href="http://thinkkids.org" target="_blank">http://thinkkids.org</a> , the baskets are now plans and there is much more help with plan b and the language . Keeping a conversation going , language that attracts a kid as Insanecdn shows.</p><p></p><p>food - we can try and do proactive plan B about food issues - when we have only healthy food and lots of healthy snacks and drink around we can put food issues into plan c and leave it upto the kid . This helps kid to learn to regulate their eating - when hungry and stop when satisfied</p><p></p><p>chores - try find a better word - the idea is to be proactive - use plan b , make a list from which the kid can choose , do things and ask for some company , chat and then ask for help</p><p></p><p>staying neutral - in the moment we cannot solve problems , also problem solving is a process , we don't solve problems in the moment , unless it is a plan A issue . Our goal is just to help the kid calm down and maybe both of us take some time off to chill off and come back and address the issue</p><p></p><p>To give the day , some structure and predictability work with your kid to draw up a schedule or list - so it is not you telling him to do things , but we are following his list</p><p></p><p>I recommend mentors, buddy-tutors , older brothers , also people who are willing to spend fun time with him and trying to connect . </p><p></p><p>General chatting , perspective taking , identifying concerns , problem solving non-emotive stuff or other peoples problems , talking about what type of future , goals etc a kid would like to pursue helps us to connect with the kid and teach skills</p><p></p><p>it is not easy , try to find islands of moments where you can nurture yourself and lower the rope where you can</p><p></p><p>Allan</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Allan-Matlem, post: 431160, member: 10"] lost my reply check the cps sites [url]http://livesinthebalance.org[/url] [url]http://thinkkids.org[/url] , the baskets are now plans and there is much more help with plan b and the language . Keeping a conversation going , language that attracts a kid as Insanecdn shows. food - we can try and do proactive plan B about food issues - when we have only healthy food and lots of healthy snacks and drink around we can put food issues into plan c and leave it upto the kid . This helps kid to learn to regulate their eating - when hungry and stop when satisfied chores - try find a better word - the idea is to be proactive - use plan b , make a list from which the kid can choose , do things and ask for some company , chat and then ask for help staying neutral - in the moment we cannot solve problems , also problem solving is a process , we don't solve problems in the moment , unless it is a plan A issue . Our goal is just to help the kid calm down and maybe both of us take some time off to chill off and come back and address the issue To give the day , some structure and predictability work with your kid to draw up a schedule or list - so it is not you telling him to do things , but we are following his list I recommend mentors, buddy-tutors , older brothers , also people who are willing to spend fun time with him and trying to connect . General chatting , perspective taking , identifying concerns , problem solving non-emotive stuff or other peoples problems , talking about what type of future , goals etc a kid would like to pursue helps us to connect with the kid and teach skills it is not easy , try to find islands of moments where you can nurture yourself and lower the rope where you can Allan [/QUOTE]
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