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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 447445" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Time to sit Billy down iwth a new LEASE for his room. The terms need to be in writing and you MUST be willing to enforce them swiftly per terms of the lease. First is the amt of rent - even twice what you are now charging is a gift. So go for $300 a month cash. The room he lives in must be orderly and free of anything to attract bugs/mice. He is to do his own laundry on X day. tha tis the day the machines are to be open and waiting for him. He works that day? Well, put a load in before work, ask to have it tossed in the dryer, if it doesn't get moved over toss it in when he gets home and start a second load. Toss that in the dryer after dinner. Watch some tv, fold clothes, etc... Done. It CAN be done after a full day of work. esp as it is just him.</p><p></p><p>He MUST clean X amt of time per week or rent $450 the next month. he can SAVE $150 per month by doing X, Y and Z chores. That means he is responsible for certain things. </p><p></p><p>Arguing wtih landlord over if he has done chores or not will cost a $25 fine per argument. IF he has a problem or is not being credited for his chores, he can submit a WRITTEN explanation of what chores he did and it will be considered. Verbal arguments cost $25 per argument. Any argument over 15 min will cost $10 per 15 min period after the first 15 min.</p><p></p><p>Figure out what chores, specifically, you want him to do. All of his own dishes? What if you cook a meal and he eats with you - does he do all the dishes or just what he used to eat/drink from?</p><p></p><p>Make sure that if he is given a chore to do on a day off that it has to be done regardless of whatever esle he has to do.</p><p></p><p>Why can't he take the car in, get a ride home and do the cleaning, then get a ride to go get the car? Then he could fix the car AND do what he needs to.</p><p></p><p>I really think it is time to put your foot down. I won't be surprised to hear the girlfriend is not willing to continue the relationship because he is just not mature enough. She needs a partner and he cannot do that yet - someone who cannot clean up his dishes during a weekend simply is not a partner to someone with kids, Know what I mean??</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 447445, member: 1233"] Time to sit Billy down iwth a new LEASE for his room. The terms need to be in writing and you MUST be willing to enforce them swiftly per terms of the lease. First is the amt of rent - even twice what you are now charging is a gift. So go for $300 a month cash. The room he lives in must be orderly and free of anything to attract bugs/mice. He is to do his own laundry on X day. tha tis the day the machines are to be open and waiting for him. He works that day? Well, put a load in before work, ask to have it tossed in the dryer, if it doesn't get moved over toss it in when he gets home and start a second load. Toss that in the dryer after dinner. Watch some tv, fold clothes, etc... Done. It CAN be done after a full day of work. esp as it is just him. He MUST clean X amt of time per week or rent $450 the next month. he can SAVE $150 per month by doing X, Y and Z chores. That means he is responsible for certain things. Arguing wtih landlord over if he has done chores or not will cost a $25 fine per argument. IF he has a problem or is not being credited for his chores, he can submit a WRITTEN explanation of what chores he did and it will be considered. Verbal arguments cost $25 per argument. Any argument over 15 min will cost $10 per 15 min period after the first 15 min. Figure out what chores, specifically, you want him to do. All of his own dishes? What if you cook a meal and he eats with you - does he do all the dishes or just what he used to eat/drink from? Make sure that if he is given a chore to do on a day off that it has to be done regardless of whatever esle he has to do. Why can't he take the car in, get a ride home and do the cleaning, then get a ride to go get the car? Then he could fix the car AND do what he needs to. I really think it is time to put your foot down. I won't be surprised to hear the girlfriend is not willing to continue the relationship because he is just not mature enough. She needs a partner and he cannot do that yet - someone who cannot clean up his dishes during a weekend simply is not a partner to someone with kids, Know what I mean?? [/QUOTE]
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