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is facing our demons a good thing?
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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 123720" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>More thoughts...</p><p></p><p></p><p>About moving on. husband and I talked with our therapist about forgiveness and moving on. He said that with people like my family, who are so invested in keeping me in the scapegoat role, my forgiveness of them is a good thing, and that is probably as far as it goes. He said that to forgive, there has to be some harm. Harm is a debt, and forgiving the harm is writing off the debt. Unfortunately, with my family, they keep waving a check in my face and saying "See this check? It pays the debt I owe you and I'm not giving it to you!" So, I wrote off the debt, and they languish on owing me anyway in an effort to add to the bill. There's nothing you can do with people like that. Other than know that you don't care about the debt any longer, and not allow them any more credit.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 123720, member: 99"] More thoughts... About moving on. husband and I talked with our therapist about forgiveness and moving on. He said that with people like my family, who are so invested in keeping me in the scapegoat role, my forgiveness of them is a good thing, and that is probably as far as it goes. He said that to forgive, there has to be some harm. Harm is a debt, and forgiving the harm is writing off the debt. Unfortunately, with my family, they keep waving a check in my face and saying "See this check? It pays the debt I owe you and I'm not giving it to you!" So, I wrote off the debt, and they languish on owing me anyway in an effort to add to the bill. There's nothing you can do with people like that. Other than know that you don't care about the debt any longer, and not allow them any more credit. [/QUOTE]
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