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<blockquote data-quote="OpenWindow" data-source="post: 168626" data-attributes="member: 45"><p>My difficult child won't do chores. We've got him putting away the dishes from the dishwasher and he puts his own dishes in the sink when forced to, but that's about the extent of it. He can't do anything until his chore is done. Sometimes it causes a minor meltdown, but less now than when we first started and not anything like when he's faced with a bigger chore. Every once in a while he'll do something to earn some money, but that's not very often. </p><p></p><p>His room is a disaster. I'm hoping as he gets older and values things a bit more, and wants money to do things, this will begin to change. But to me it's not worth the meltdowns to make him clean his room, when we have all the other issues we're dealing with. He has to leave the house when the rest of us are cleaning because not only does he refuse to do anything, he sabotages his brother and sister if they are cooperating.</p><p></p><p>I'd say if it doesn't cause serious meltdowns, he is capable of doing the chore. It's also helpful to break the job down into separate tasks. Like instead of making him clean his whole room I tell him to pick up all the dirty clothes. After that's done, and he gets a break, I tell him to pick up his books. Break, then he picks up the toys. Last, he picks up the trash. This could take up to a week for everything to get done, because he will often refuse to go to the next step.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="OpenWindow, post: 168626, member: 45"] My difficult child won't do chores. We've got him putting away the dishes from the dishwasher and he puts his own dishes in the sink when forced to, but that's about the extent of it. He can't do anything until his chore is done. Sometimes it causes a minor meltdown, but less now than when we first started and not anything like when he's faced with a bigger chore. Every once in a while he'll do something to earn some money, but that's not very often. His room is a disaster. I'm hoping as he gets older and values things a bit more, and wants money to do things, this will begin to change. But to me it's not worth the meltdowns to make him clean his room, when we have all the other issues we're dealing with. He has to leave the house when the rest of us are cleaning because not only does he refuse to do anything, he sabotages his brother and sister if they are cooperating. I'd say if it doesn't cause serious meltdowns, he is capable of doing the chore. It's also helpful to break the job down into separate tasks. Like instead of making him clean his whole room I tell him to pick up all the dirty clothes. After that's done, and he gets a break, I tell him to pick up his books. Break, then he picks up the toys. Last, he picks up the trash. This could take up to a week for everything to get done, because he will often refuse to go to the next step. [/QUOTE]
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