Hi, I am new here. I am a very frustrated father because it seems like my 19 year old daughter is never improving. She always have problems but they seem to shift in circles (English is not my first language). First she have a problem with social anxiety, very severe in school when she was young. We go to have her tested when she was six. They said it was possibly developmental delays and autism spectrum. When she turn eight, we moved. New school and she develop new problems. Now she have tons of friends but she can't focus in school. But the friends don't stay long because of aggression incidents (she was fighting for no reason). Also she manipulate and lie. I find out she had been making her friend steal her dad's alcohol to sell from his basement. We take her to therapist again they say she have depression, conduct disorder, and ADHD. Okay, now she goes on prozac, ritalin, and therapy. Pretty soon the therapist decides she is all better and sends her home. "Miracle" all problems have vanished.
I am sorry this is so long. While we all think it's over, she seem to move on to being intimate with many older guys, drug use. Combine with her unexplainable mood swings at home, she was diagnosed as bipolar. Also running away many times. She go on Lithium and Abilify and was in residential treatment for half a year. When she come out and goes into intensive therapy for 8 months and wow, again therapist has a miracle. She is now the perfect child. Come forward two years, I find she contract STD from sleeping with a married man while telling her boyfriend she is a virgin that was slipped a roofie and then lost it (I hear her on phone). She also drop all her college courses one month before semester finish because she feel "bipolar"
She has a need to manipulate and control relationships. It is like she is a movie director all the time. I do not think it is Borderline (BPD) because she is not always like this. Sometimes months pass with "perfect child". Tell us she love us, cooks us family dinners. Then she just snaps. I think it is attachment disorder and want to coax her into therapy again because this is destroying her life. Problem is we take her for another psychiatric evaluation because health insurance evaluation and they say her life does not have enough trauma.
When she born, she was born in my home country (Russia) but I was gone. She was raised first with one nanny, then another after the first one caught stealing until she was three. Her mother left her to be with me in the states when she was 8 months. She had colic but whole time they were in my wife's parent's house living with her parent's. But her parent's wanted an abortion so I don't imagine they were very bonded. My wife refuses to talk more. She is very controlling about her image, I will not lie and that has made therapy not progress well I think.
So, she formed some attachment and thus cannot have Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)? I am confused by this logic. She refuses to see these grandparents now and has assualted one of them if you are wondering about how they are now. I want my child to get help, it just seems everything doesn't work.
I am sorry this is so long. While we all think it's over, she seem to move on to being intimate with many older guys, drug use. Combine with her unexplainable mood swings at home, she was diagnosed as bipolar. Also running away many times. She go on Lithium and Abilify and was in residential treatment for half a year. When she come out and goes into intensive therapy for 8 months and wow, again therapist has a miracle. She is now the perfect child. Come forward two years, I find she contract STD from sleeping with a married man while telling her boyfriend she is a virgin that was slipped a roofie and then lost it (I hear her on phone). She also drop all her college courses one month before semester finish because she feel "bipolar"
She has a need to manipulate and control relationships. It is like she is a movie director all the time. I do not think it is Borderline (BPD) because she is not always like this. Sometimes months pass with "perfect child". Tell us she love us, cooks us family dinners. Then she just snaps. I think it is attachment disorder and want to coax her into therapy again because this is destroying her life. Problem is we take her for another psychiatric evaluation because health insurance evaluation and they say her life does not have enough trauma.
When she born, she was born in my home country (Russia) but I was gone. She was raised first with one nanny, then another after the first one caught stealing until she was three. Her mother left her to be with me in the states when she was 8 months. She had colic but whole time they were in my wife's parent's house living with her parent's. But her parent's wanted an abortion so I don't imagine they were very bonded. My wife refuses to talk more. She is very controlling about her image, I will not lie and that has made therapy not progress well I think.
So, she formed some attachment and thus cannot have Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)? I am confused by this logic. She refuses to see these grandparents now and has assualted one of them if you are wondering about how they are now. I want my child to get help, it just seems everything doesn't work.
