Thank you very much for your help.
Now I can think about Borderline (BPD) again maybe. It cross my mind sometimes when in one day she can want me gone forever then she start get very angry that I am going for a walk to cool down. I have no clue how her boyfriend deal with her, honestly.
She want to go to therapy but I honestly think she invents issues to resolve in therapy. Right now she's in therapy mood but I told her if we go again she have to be honest. We have been to family therapy before and she lie to fit diagnosis so that her problems can be "resolved" . A couple therapists have called her "recovery" far beyond anything expected.
My wife may not want therapy anymore but it don't really matter I think. They have negative relationship and my wife has created her own version of their relationship which is positive.
I will move to emeritus board. Thank you again for your help. 
