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<blockquote data-quote="busywend" data-source="post: 524683" data-attributes="member: 391"><p>I would not say 'born bad', but I would say born missing something that causes them to be bad. </p><p></p><p>I believe it is natural to crave acceptance. Think of a 2 year old getting praise for coloring only on the paper and not the wall, or picking the right color or using the potty chair. Think of the praise and excitement that goes along with those things. They help to encourage the child to do things that seem to please their parents or get a positive reaction from them. </p><p></p><p>When that craving is missing, that is when I think there was something missing from birth. And I think it is the hardest type of child to work with, because helping these kids has to be completely unconventional. You can't reward them with a smile or a clap because it makes no difference. </p><p></p><p>So, it is my belief that if a child has that inate craving to please their parents, the reasons for behavior issues stem from either poor parenting (did not get the praise) or a mental health issue, learning disability, or future trauma.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="busywend, post: 524683, member: 391"] I would not say 'born bad', but I would say born missing something that causes them to be bad. I believe it is natural to crave acceptance. Think of a 2 year old getting praise for coloring only on the paper and not the wall, or picking the right color or using the potty chair. Think of the praise and excitement that goes along with those things. They help to encourage the child to do things that seem to please their parents or get a positive reaction from them. When that craving is missing, that is when I think there was something missing from birth. And I think it is the hardest type of child to work with, because helping these kids has to be completely unconventional. You can't reward them with a smile or a clap because it makes no difference. So, it is my belief that if a child has that inate craving to please their parents, the reasons for behavior issues stem from either poor parenting (did not get the praise) or a mental health issue, learning disability, or future trauma. [/QUOTE]
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