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<blockquote data-quote="TheWalrus" data-source="post: 676073" data-attributes="member: 19905"><p>I have a close family member who was a self-described "junkie" for 20 years. TWENTY. Amazing to still be alive after that many years, that many drugs, and that many close calls. Was literally NOTHING this person wouldn't try - and in large doses. Often without a job or car, evicted from more places than you can imagine, jail - you name it. Parents tried over and over and over to intervene and "save" - giving money, cars, a roof, paying rent for a roof, buying clothes/groceries/necessities - to the point of emotionally, physically and financially bankrupting themselves. They had to stop because they had nothing left to give. Truly nothing. Once that was gone, it forced FM to figure it out. Drifted and couch surfed for awhile and when there was no one left to "give," that was the rock bottom needed and cleaned self up. Has been clean almost two years. I had given up hope and had sat back and watched in frustration for years while this all played out.</p><p></p><p>When this all began to happen with my own Difficult Child, FM contacted me and flat said, "You can't save her. My parents didn't. She has to save herself. Let her go." I keep that message and re-read it when I falter or feel myself want to give in. Because that is a message from someone who was the Difficult Child and with all honesty tells me that enabling, fixing and rescuing only hurts me and will never help Difficult Child. </p><p></p><p>So yes, there is hope. For us and our children.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TheWalrus, post: 676073, member: 19905"] I have a close family member who was a self-described "junkie" for 20 years. TWENTY. Amazing to still be alive after that many years, that many drugs, and that many close calls. Was literally NOTHING this person wouldn't try - and in large doses. Often without a job or car, evicted from more places than you can imagine, jail - you name it. Parents tried over and over and over to intervene and "save" - giving money, cars, a roof, paying rent for a roof, buying clothes/groceries/necessities - to the point of emotionally, physically and financially bankrupting themselves. They had to stop because they had nothing left to give. Truly nothing. Once that was gone, it forced FM to figure it out. Drifted and couch surfed for awhile and when there was no one left to "give," that was the rock bottom needed and cleaned self up. Has been clean almost two years. I had given up hope and had sat back and watched in frustration for years while this all played out. When this all began to happen with my own Difficult Child, FM contacted me and flat said, "You can't save her. My parents didn't. She has to save herself. Let her go." I keep that message and re-read it when I falter or feel myself want to give in. Because that is a message from someone who was the Difficult Child and with all honesty tells me that enabling, fixing and rescuing only hurts me and will never help Difficult Child. So yes, there is hope. For us and our children. [/QUOTE]
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