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Is there such a thing as 'Aspie-lite'?
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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 462011" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>Jo, with the Jane Austen speech you could be describing me. I used to pretend that it was because I majored in English lit, but no...it's just pedantic.</p><p></p><p>One of the nice things about dealing with an Aspie is that you can be pretty direct without having to worry about hurt feelings. I for one appreciate the feedback when I've said or done something socially wrong. ("No Trinity. When people say, 'Drop by any time', they don't mean Just-Show-Up-At-Their-House-Unannounced. They mean phone first, but you don't need formal plans.")</p><p></p><p>I wouldn't be surprised if your mother in law - and your H - appreciate the same type of directness. Tell your H, "Your mum can't move in with us." He WILL ask you "Why". Be prepared to give him an an answer that you're also prepared for her to hear, because that nuance of "this is meant for you, but don't tell so-and-so" is often completely lost. So "Because we need the space for the home-business" or "difficult child and her boyfriend are going to move in there" or whatever it is. But not "Because she drives me bananas".</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 462011, member: 3907"] Jo, with the Jane Austen speech you could be describing me. I used to pretend that it was because I majored in English lit, but no...it's just pedantic. One of the nice things about dealing with an Aspie is that you can be pretty direct without having to worry about hurt feelings. I for one appreciate the feedback when I've said or done something socially wrong. ("No Trinity. When people say, 'Drop by any time', they don't mean Just-Show-Up-At-Their-House-Unannounced. They mean phone first, but you don't need formal plans.") I wouldn't be surprised if your mother in law - and your H - appreciate the same type of directness. Tell your H, "Your mum can't move in with us." He WILL ask you "Why". Be prepared to give him an an answer that you're also prepared for her to hear, because that nuance of "this is meant for you, but don't tell so-and-so" is often completely lost. So "Because we need the space for the home-business" or "difficult child and her boyfriend are going to move in there" or whatever it is. But not "Because she drives me bananas". [/QUOTE]
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