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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 717939" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Like always it surprises and scares me that anyone would allow an addict to drive, even after a short four weeks of sobriety. It is not just about them, but a risk to other peoples lives. I could not have stood it if I had helped my daughter drive because of a few good weeks... what if she chose to get high and drive and killed herself or somebody else. We chose not to be a part of that and I am so puzzled that parents will participate long before sobriety is established.</p><p></p><p>My daughter had one mishap in our car. After that any driving she did was not becsuse of us. She got "friends" (we know about the good sense od our childrens friends) would sometimes let her drive. One of her two horrible accidents severely injured a woman and she was paying money for this for years, even after she got sober. Finally ex paid it off two years after she obviously quit.</p><p></p><p>At least it did not make us feel guilty. It would have if we had funded this ride. Or paid insurance or even for gas. Or if it had been in our vehicle with our permissuon. We werent stupid. We knew the odds.</p><p></p><p>Parents, this isnt a reward for two weeks or months of sobriety. Many examples right on this forum of how a quick return to driving id peralous. A car with a driver under the influence is a guided missle. We know they are likely to use again after such short times.</p><p></p><p>We want to show them to make hard decisions. We set an example. If we cant make hard choices, how can we expect them to do hard things? Its hard to say no to driving but it is the safest. And shows a willingness to stand firm. How eould you ferl if your own child were hurt by a young drug filled driver who had just left rehab?</p><p></p><p>Am I judging? Yes!! That is a safety issue. I judge it! It is no different than allowing our three year kids to run in the street and play chicken with cars.</p><p></p><p>We live in a small town with no public trans. Daughter got rides, walked, rode her bike. She did tje same after to moving to cold Chicago. She also quit drugs because drugs were "too hard."</p><p></p><p>In the end, driving is your decision, but I will never understand. And i will never stop cringing. This is not just about our kids...its about every sweet soul on the road and their own kids.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 717939, member: 1550"] Like always it surprises and scares me that anyone would allow an addict to drive, even after a short four weeks of sobriety. It is not just about them, but a risk to other peoples lives. I could not have stood it if I had helped my daughter drive because of a few good weeks... what if she chose to get high and drive and killed herself or somebody else. We chose not to be a part of that and I am so puzzled that parents will participate long before sobriety is established. My daughter had one mishap in our car. After that any driving she did was not becsuse of us. She got "friends" (we know about the good sense od our childrens friends) would sometimes let her drive. One of her two horrible accidents severely injured a woman and she was paying money for this for years, even after she got sober. Finally ex paid it off two years after she obviously quit. At least it did not make us feel guilty. It would have if we had funded this ride. Or paid insurance or even for gas. Or if it had been in our vehicle with our permissuon. We werent stupid. We knew the odds. Parents, this isnt a reward for two weeks or months of sobriety. Many examples right on this forum of how a quick return to driving id peralous. A car with a driver under the influence is a guided missle. We know they are likely to use again after such short times. We want to show them to make hard decisions. We set an example. If we cant make hard choices, how can we expect them to do hard things? Its hard to say no to driving but it is the safest. And shows a willingness to stand firm. How eould you ferl if your own child were hurt by a young drug filled driver who had just left rehab? Am I judging? Yes!! That is a safety issue. I judge it! It is no different than allowing our three year kids to run in the street and play chicken with cars. We live in a small town with no public trans. Daughter got rides, walked, rode her bike. She did tje same after to moving to cold Chicago. She also quit drugs because drugs were "too hard." In the end, driving is your decision, but I will never understand. And i will never stop cringing. This is not just about our kids...its about every sweet soul on the road and their own kids. [/QUOTE]
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