Pigless, I agree with your statement about not making a huge deal about smoking. I hate it, it's not allowed in our home or on our property. I won't give her an allowance as it would be spent on cigs, and possibly on drugs, IF she doesn't stay clean.
As to driving, I am still open to it as a reward. That is, if she stays clean, does well in school, and has an attitude change. She will be in intensive outpatient rehab and be tested weekly by them. She can also be tested by the family preservation workers and her court services officer. In the past, I have called them up if I thought she should be tested. I also have test kits here at home.
By driving, I don't mean she has freedom to decide when and where she will drive. It will be restricted to school or work, not to see friends or go to the mall, etc.
I respect your opinions. I would not consider it if she is using.
Ksm
