Hi Terry
I'm with you. It's unsanitary, and it drives me and my husband nuts.
I have to just close my difficult child's door to his room when I don't have time to clean it. My difficult child will urinate where ever he's sitting when he's "too busy" to go to the bathroom. He's gotten better, but it still happens once in awhile. I even bought those overnite pants (diapers) and made him wear those while he's playing his video games just in case he decides he doesn't want to break from the game!! We put a urinal in his room too and this seemed to work for awhile. It was still pretty gross to clean out, but it was better than having it in the carpet or in his trash can (yes, he would go in his trash can too).
I have a hard time getting him to take a bath, so recently I started giving him a choice between a bath and a shower and I think this makes him feel empowered by getting to choose (??) Now if I could just get him to brush his teeth regularly! I can only get him to bath like twice a week -- which isn't enough. I hope it gets better when he hits puberty because then he will really smell.
Hang in there!!!
