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<blockquote data-quote="Reallynow?" data-source="post: 764669" data-attributes="member: 32881"><p>Thank you all for your comments. My daughter was just discharged from the psychiatric hospital yesterday and is now in a partial program. She’s 14. she’s been using substances for about six months - marijuana and vaping. That’s what has admitted to. She only admits to the things I already know about.</p><p></p><p>She’s started to get in trouble at school, skipping classes, etc.. and when I looked at her Chromebook after she was admitted to the psychiatric hospital, I was able to find out a whole lot more that I’m just absolutely floored that my daughter could start getting into. She’s been leaving her room in the middle of the night to meet boys, sexual favors for drugs or even just for fun, sexting strangers etc. she was trying to score some acid. I was so hurt and angry when I found this out- I even had to cancel my visitation with her the following day because I didn’t feel like I could see her. so much time and effort to raise our kids and give them every opportunity we can afford to give them, and they end up shitting on it all.</p><p></p><p>There is definitely a nature vs nurture thing at play here. I adopted her to foster care when she was just a year old. Her biological mother was 20 when she had her and she was the fifth child. The biological mother is into drugs and is a prostitute. we know this because we keep in touch with the family that adopted two of her siblings live in the same city as the bio Mom . even though my daughter says she resents her, she is following in her bio mom’s footsteps.</p><p></p><p>I’m having the hardest time, battling some of the feelings I have. I’ve cried in my car before I picked her up because I really didn’t want to have her back in the house. The 11 days that she was in psychiatric hospital gave me a chance to have a little normalcy again. I don’t know who she is anymore- she is definitely not the daughter I thought I had. Attracted to the dark side of life, and my efforts trying to keep her safe now feels futile. I know she is struggling - part of her wants to do good the other part loves to self sabotage. At this point, I don’t know what side will win. That’s up to her, but its not looking great.</p><p></p><p>But after dedicating, a decade, and a half to giving her the best life I could, I’m still afraid that I just don’t have it in me to do this much longer. And I hate having to say that, but it’s so true. I’m burnt out.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Reallynow?, post: 764669, member: 32881"] Thank you all for your comments. My daughter was just discharged from the psychiatric hospital yesterday and is now in a partial program. She’s 14. she’s been using substances for about six months - marijuana and vaping. That’s what has admitted to. She only admits to the things I already know about. She’s started to get in trouble at school, skipping classes, etc.. and when I looked at her Chromebook after she was admitted to the psychiatric hospital, I was able to find out a whole lot more that I’m just absolutely floored that my daughter could start getting into. She’s been leaving her room in the middle of the night to meet boys, sexual favors for drugs or even just for fun, sexting strangers etc. she was trying to score some acid. I was so hurt and angry when I found this out- I even had to cancel my visitation with her the following day because I didn’t feel like I could see her. so much time and effort to raise our kids and give them every opportunity we can afford to give them, and they end up shitting on it all. There is definitely a nature vs nurture thing at play here. I adopted her to foster care when she was just a year old. Her biological mother was 20 when she had her and she was the fifth child. The biological mother is into drugs and is a prostitute. we know this because we keep in touch with the family that adopted two of her siblings live in the same city as the bio Mom . even though my daughter says she resents her, she is following in her bio mom’s footsteps. I’m having the hardest time, battling some of the feelings I have. I’ve cried in my car before I picked her up because I really didn’t want to have her back in the house. The 11 days that she was in psychiatric hospital gave me a chance to have a little normalcy again. I don’t know who she is anymore- she is definitely not the daughter I thought I had. Attracted to the dark side of life, and my efforts trying to keep her safe now feels futile. I know she is struggling - part of her wants to do good the other part loves to self sabotage. At this point, I don’t know what side will win. That’s up to her, but its not looking great. But after dedicating, a decade, and a half to giving her the best life I could, I’m still afraid that I just don’t have it in me to do this much longer. And I hate having to say that, but it’s so true. I’m burnt out. [/QUOTE]
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