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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 764685" data-attributes="member: 4152"><p>I am so sorry. Like the others have said, many of us are now hanging out at the PE Forum, but that doesn't mean there isn't activity here and it doesn't mean that we don't well remember the earlier days.</p><p></p><p>Our daughter was adopted as an infant. Almost from toddlerhood, I began to notice "differences." By the teenage, years things were truly very difficult with I think her number one problem...impulsivity and very closely related...lack of cause and effect reasoning. She was diagnosis'd with a mood disorder, but I can say her conduct was abysmal. MANY other issues as well and school was a nightmare.</p><p></p><p>We know someone, whose child I believe is also adopted, with the conduct disorder diagnosis. There is hypersexuality, impulsivity and tremendous oppositional behavior....just for starters. Not exactly the same as my situation, but profoundly similar.</p><p></p><p>Both of us had great difficult with the school system. One year, I ended up "partially" homeschooling her. She attended the local school for a few classes and did the rest at home. This other family, after many school nightmares, are trying homeschooling this year. They are considering residential tx...I think they are trying this (homeschooling) first.</p><p></p><p>There was a family many years ago here that described almost the same thing you are describing. Interestingly, she is one of the more successful stories. She does not post regularly at all...so it's very doubtful she will pop up. But, your post reminded me of some things she mentioned. A lot of therapy and fortunately, the "school of hard knocks" in her case worked. Eventually, her daughter got tired of extreme difficulties and learned a trade and is doing well.</p><p></p><p>Long term residential tx, certainly has the potential to be helpful and fingers crossed you find a good one to your liking. It seems like a very good choice.</p><p></p><p>There is a wonderful group called "Families Anonymous" that has in person mtgs. as well as on-line mtgs. These folks use like an AA type of structure. We only attended a few mtgs as their location was not near or convenient to us. BUT, just those few mtgs. were super helpful for my husband and I and we really appreciated their literature. I was a big mess the fist mtg. and couldn't even speak...real truth...I spent the first mtg. simply crying....after having experienced probably one of the worst experiences yet with our now adult child. It is helpful for your hurting heart to speak with others who understand. We understand. And having a mtg. like at FA is good too...real live folks...but also sometimes such people can provide ideas directly related to your community. Over the many years, I have found it straining to hold all this in and often felt few truly comprehended what we were going through.</p><p></p><p>Another potential group is NAMI....a group for the mentally ill and for families of the mentally ill. I personally did not like this one as much, but I know they are good resource for information.</p><p></p><p>Stay strong and practice maximum self care! It's important. Hope you continue to post. Prayers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 764685, member: 4152"] I am so sorry. Like the others have said, many of us are now hanging out at the PE Forum, but that doesn't mean there isn't activity here and it doesn't mean that we don't well remember the earlier days. Our daughter was adopted as an infant. Almost from toddlerhood, I began to notice "differences." By the teenage, years things were truly very difficult with I think her number one problem...impulsivity and very closely related...lack of cause and effect reasoning. She was diagnosis'd with a mood disorder, but I can say her conduct was abysmal. MANY other issues as well and school was a nightmare. We know someone, whose child I believe is also adopted, with the conduct disorder diagnosis. There is hypersexuality, impulsivity and tremendous oppositional behavior....just for starters. Not exactly the same as my situation, but profoundly similar. Both of us had great difficult with the school system. One year, I ended up "partially" homeschooling her. She attended the local school for a few classes and did the rest at home. This other family, after many school nightmares, are trying homeschooling this year. They are considering residential tx...I think they are trying this (homeschooling) first. There was a family many years ago here that described almost the same thing you are describing. Interestingly, she is one of the more successful stories. She does not post regularly at all...so it's very doubtful she will pop up. But, your post reminded me of some things she mentioned. A lot of therapy and fortunately, the "school of hard knocks" in her case worked. Eventually, her daughter got tired of extreme difficulties and learned a trade and is doing well. Long term residential tx, certainly has the potential to be helpful and fingers crossed you find a good one to your liking. It seems like a very good choice. There is a wonderful group called "Families Anonymous" that has in person mtgs. as well as on-line mtgs. These folks use like an AA type of structure. We only attended a few mtgs as their location was not near or convenient to us. BUT, just those few mtgs. were super helpful for my husband and I and we really appreciated their literature. I was a big mess the fist mtg. and couldn't even speak...real truth...I spent the first mtg. simply crying....after having experienced probably one of the worst experiences yet with our now adult child. It is helpful for your hurting heart to speak with others who understand. We understand. And having a mtg. like at FA is good too...real live folks...but also sometimes such people can provide ideas directly related to your community. Over the many years, I have found it straining to hold all this in and often felt few truly comprehended what we were going through. Another potential group is NAMI....a group for the mentally ill and for families of the mentally ill. I personally did not like this one as much, but I know they are good resource for information. Stay strong and practice maximum self care! It's important. Hope you continue to post. Prayers. [/QUOTE]
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