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Issue at Residential Treatment Center (RTC) - Need your input - PLEASE
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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 146520" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>David, </p><p> </p><p>My son has been in and out of a lot of Residential Treatment Center (RTC) facilities. The one that comes to mind is the one closest to our home that he spent numerous times, for varying lengths at. He first went there when he was around 9. </p><p> </p><p>When he got a little older he was back there again for another deescalation period and met "Barbie". I don't mean this in a bad way - the woman is stunning. Snow white blonde hair, thin, sweet, soft-talker, big blue eyes. And there was another counselor there - Short, heavy set, short died brown hair, not what you would say HOT, but pretty. My son developed an attachment to both. I felt the Barbie one he had a crush on - but it wasn't that at all - they just clicked. </p><p> </p><p>He's written her, called her over the years and at first I thought it was a little weird, but the I thought -He is trying to find someone he connects with. If it's her or the other one - who cares? If he has a crush on her? Who cares?? He could have crushes on worse women, who are NOT going to steer him in the right direction and give him good sound advice. </p><p> </p><p>I've never interferred in my sons relationship with ANY of his counselors past or present that were being a healthy influence on his life. In this world if you find ONE person you "get" and who get's you in a professional capacity - I think you are very lucky. There are SO many out there that are not even worth mentioning. In all the years - I can only name these two women as someone my son "understood". </p><p> </p><p>I think the place is wrong in their assumption of making a Mom connection - that ship has sailed. And while we as adults can get stuck on stuff like thinking he is searching, yearning, waning for a Mother figure - he may just see it as someone cool who, happens to be female, who happens to be hot - and who happens to GET HIM. </p><p> </p><p>Making him stand up in front of everyone is WRONG. My advice to him would have been that he doesn't have to discuss this at all. It's between him and her. BUT - I would caution him that while it's perfectly fine to have a professional relationship with this particular Hottie (not use that word), he also needs to understand, and accept the advice of the rest of the staff - </p><p> </p><p>Encourage him to get as much as he can from ALL resources - and if he has a special problem - go to her. </p><p> </p><p>I think I'd call her myself and explain this so SHE can explain it to staff. REally REally. </p><p> </p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 146520, member: 4964"] David, My son has been in and out of a lot of Residential Treatment Center (RTC) facilities. The one that comes to mind is the one closest to our home that he spent numerous times, for varying lengths at. He first went there when he was around 9. When he got a little older he was back there again for another deescalation period and met "Barbie". I don't mean this in a bad way - the woman is stunning. Snow white blonde hair, thin, sweet, soft-talker, big blue eyes. And there was another counselor there - Short, heavy set, short died brown hair, not what you would say HOT, but pretty. My son developed an attachment to both. I felt the Barbie one he had a crush on - but it wasn't that at all - they just clicked. He's written her, called her over the years and at first I thought it was a little weird, but the I thought -He is trying to find someone he connects with. If it's her or the other one - who cares? If he has a crush on her? Who cares?? He could have crushes on worse women, who are NOT going to steer him in the right direction and give him good sound advice. I've never interferred in my sons relationship with ANY of his counselors past or present that were being a healthy influence on his life. In this world if you find ONE person you "get" and who get's you in a professional capacity - I think you are very lucky. There are SO many out there that are not even worth mentioning. In all the years - I can only name these two women as someone my son "understood". I think the place is wrong in their assumption of making a Mom connection - that ship has sailed. And while we as adults can get stuck on stuff like thinking he is searching, yearning, waning for a Mother figure - he may just see it as someone cool who, happens to be female, who happens to be hot - and who happens to GET HIM. Making him stand up in front of everyone is WRONG. My advice to him would have been that he doesn't have to discuss this at all. It's between him and her. BUT - I would caution him that while it's perfectly fine to have a professional relationship with this particular Hottie (not use that word), he also needs to understand, and accept the advice of the rest of the staff - Encourage him to get as much as he can from ALL resources - and if he has a special problem - go to her. I think I'd call her myself and explain this so SHE can explain it to staff. REally REally. Star [/QUOTE]
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