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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 383154" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>"He's the only one we have to deal with" is NOT an excuse for not trying to help him.</p><p></p><p>His need for control sounds like it is being directly and deliberately opposed by the teachers, to "teach him a lesson". It is what is setting him up for failure. His need for control cannot be fixed by taking control away - it only makes him more desperate and determined, and frankly, in a battle of wills, a teacher who has a classroom of students to worry about and distract him/her can never win against a bright kid with strong, single-minded purpose and a strong sense of entitlement.</p><p></p><p>The best way to 'sell' this to the school, is to show them how THEIR lives will be made easier, by accommodating his needs. ANd in doing so, they will also maximise the teaching outcome for this student - win-win-win.</p><p></p><p>So you tell them that by letting him have some control (where it's no skin off their nose) he is more likely to let them take back control where they absolutely must have it. He is also likely to be less disruptive. Also, if he is so bright, why not involve him in instructing other students? It would be valuable social instruction for difficult child and would also work to consolidate his skills and also stop him kicking against imposed restrictions.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 383154, member: 1991"] "He's the only one we have to deal with" is NOT an excuse for not trying to help him. His need for control sounds like it is being directly and deliberately opposed by the teachers, to "teach him a lesson". It is what is setting him up for failure. His need for control cannot be fixed by taking control away - it only makes him more desperate and determined, and frankly, in a battle of wills, a teacher who has a classroom of students to worry about and distract him/her can never win against a bright kid with strong, single-minded purpose and a strong sense of entitlement. The best way to 'sell' this to the school, is to show them how THEIR lives will be made easier, by accommodating his needs. ANd in doing so, they will also maximise the teaching outcome for this student - win-win-win. So you tell them that by letting him have some control (where it's no skin off their nose) he is more likely to let them take back control where they absolutely must have it. He is also likely to be less disruptive. Also, if he is so bright, why not involve him in instructing other students? It would be valuable social instruction for difficult child and would also work to consolidate his skills and also stop him kicking against imposed restrictions. Marg [/QUOTE]
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