Addiction is such a powerful beast! And we as the mothers of an addict can’t control it or save our precious children from it.
To finally stop using for good is a very personal decision. A choice. One that they’ve had all along.
My belief is that no amount of rehab or programs or tons and tons of money thrown at the problem of addiction will make it stop!
Again…it is a personal decision. One we can’t interfere with in any way lest we get caught up in its consequences to our own health. Which I’m glad you realize New Leaf.
I had a psychotic breakdown after years and years of the war zone in addiction with my sons. First it started with panic attacks after severe depression and then finally the breakdown. I now have to take a handful of pills every night to stay on an even keel for the rest of my life. Of course I was also diagnosed with Bipolar disorder during the breakdown.
I lost one son due to this horrible affliction that is addiction. He never overcame it. He lost his chances to make a new choice. That personal decision.
I pray all of you moms and dads out there will keep yourselves removed enough from their journey with addiction so as to not lose yourself in the process.
Love is powerful too. But only has a place in the addicts life once they are choosing sober living. Until then it’s just a waste in my opinion.
I wasted a lot of years trying to love the problem of addiction away. I can’t get back that time.
Now that my son has passed I am finally concentrating on my grandchildren and their betterment. Which is where I wish my focus had been all along.
New Leaf…you are so wise.
Hold onto yourself and your precious granddaughter. Focus on the ones that your love can make a difference with and let God’s love take care of the addict.
Thinking of you too Copa. I pray you can deliver your son to God so you stop despairing and start living your life focused on things and people your love can make a difference with too.
We can’t control their choices or save them from them. This is their free will at work for or against drugs and alcohol. Best we stay out of the way and let God work in their lives in my humble opinion.
Love,
LMS
