Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Substance Abuse
It didnt take long....
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 507963"><p>Janet... yes about dual diagnosis.... the tx center he was in when he first went down there was dual diagnosis.. he did pretty well there actually. I do think he probably has a personality disorder BUT I also can see that since he started using around the age of 11 it is really hard to determine what his diagnosis is until he gets sober. That is the difficulty of course. He I think realizes he has mental health issues and wants to deal with those but cant seem to really admit that he has a substance abuse problem. He cant deal with the mental health issues unless he also deals with the substance abuse issues.</p><p></p><p>He is currently focused on the place being the problem.... he keeps looking for a better "place" and now in his mind that place is back up here. I think he would like to go back to the mental health program he was in in Sept until he went back to the sober house and took acid... so then the mental health program wont deal with him until he also addresses the sa problem. </p><p></p><p>The program I talked to yesterday is dual diagnosis... or at least they say they are. </p><p></p><p>He defintiely needs some serious individual therapy...</p><p></p><p>Gosh there is so much that he needs but he has got to be willing to do it.</p><p></p><p>And I am discouraged about the girlfriend. When he first went down there they had broken up and so he was willing to move down there... then he came back up for that court date and they saw each other and now I think it is up and down. I am sure she is the main reason he wants to be back here...and of course with him down there she can keep him dangling and in the background safely and so she does. I wish she would cut the ties. Obviously she has problems too....</p><p></p><p>Ugh I just have to wait and see what he decides to do. That is the hardest part.</p><p></p><p>Jane - interesting what Dr. Phil says. I don't think I can say I won't speak to him again... truth is he doesn't speak to me all that much anyways. I feel like as long as I stay clear and strong and recognize his manipulation tactics and can keep just giving him tidbits to think about he may take in some of what I am saying. I have noticed him doing that before.... so I will continue to text convo with him as long as he is decent towards me and we are clear that we are not bringing him back up here, nor are we paying for anything other than treatment.</p><p></p><p>It is amazing to me how he thinks he can just keep on lying to us and that we will keep on believing him!! I have reached my limit on that. </p><p></p><p>I wonder how long he will keep up the line of I need to come back up there... before he realizes we are not falling for that garbage?</p><p></p><p>Or I suppose the girlfriend could bring him back up here and then what, he will come to us to rescue him? Again?</p><p></p><p>TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 507963"] Janet... yes about dual diagnosis.... the tx center he was in when he first went down there was dual diagnosis.. he did pretty well there actually. I do think he probably has a personality disorder BUT I also can see that since he started using around the age of 11 it is really hard to determine what his diagnosis is until he gets sober. That is the difficulty of course. He I think realizes he has mental health issues and wants to deal with those but cant seem to really admit that he has a substance abuse problem. He cant deal with the mental health issues unless he also deals with the substance abuse issues. He is currently focused on the place being the problem.... he keeps looking for a better "place" and now in his mind that place is back up here. I think he would like to go back to the mental health program he was in in Sept until he went back to the sober house and took acid... so then the mental health program wont deal with him until he also addresses the sa problem. The program I talked to yesterday is dual diagnosis... or at least they say they are. He defintiely needs some serious individual therapy... Gosh there is so much that he needs but he has got to be willing to do it. And I am discouraged about the girlfriend. When he first went down there they had broken up and so he was willing to move down there... then he came back up for that court date and they saw each other and now I think it is up and down. I am sure she is the main reason he wants to be back here...and of course with him down there she can keep him dangling and in the background safely and so she does. I wish she would cut the ties. Obviously she has problems too.... Ugh I just have to wait and see what he decides to do. That is the hardest part. Jane - interesting what Dr. Phil says. I don't think I can say I won't speak to him again... truth is he doesn't speak to me all that much anyways. I feel like as long as I stay clear and strong and recognize his manipulation tactics and can keep just giving him tidbits to think about he may take in some of what I am saying. I have noticed him doing that before.... so I will continue to text convo with him as long as he is decent towards me and we are clear that we are not bringing him back up here, nor are we paying for anything other than treatment. It is amazing to me how he thinks he can just keep on lying to us and that we will keep on believing him!! I have reached my limit on that. I wonder how long he will keep up the line of I need to come back up there... before he realizes we are not falling for that garbage? Or I suppose the girlfriend could bring him back up here and then what, he will come to us to rescue him? Again? TL [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Substance Abuse
It didnt take long....
Top